You must fall in love with the behavior you loathe. Sound impossible? It isn't.
Most of us can list (at least) ten traits we dislike — or even hate — about our spouses. Whether they are always late for appointments or they spend too much time working, the traits we hate the most usually become the focus of our worst fights, mainly because resolution feels impossible.
Communication help when you’re with a quiet or secretive partner.
Rarely does jealousy manifest out of thin air.
Usually there are very real things going on in your relationship or life that trigger jealousy. These might be more intense because of something that happened in your past or maybe because of something going on now.
Beware of the five traps that could end your marriage!
With over 50 percent of marriages in the U.S. ending in divorce, it's important to take a look at the marriage mistakes that can lead to divorce. While researching this subject for my book, "Secrets of Happy Couples," I asked happy couples what their "non-negotiables" in marriage are. One hundred couples responded about the dealbreakers in their marriages. Here is what I learned.
Every marriage has three phases that correspond to the times couples typically get divorced.
Unfortunately, research shows that half of all marriages end in divorce with a spike in the divorce rate at the two-year, seven-year and twenty-year anniversary dates. What's happening within the relationship during these phases?
These snippets of conversations were a record of certain events in our lives
This past Valentine’s Day, when my husband opened his present he started laughing uncontrollably and then he exclaimed, “Oh Honey! This is the best present I’ve ever received!” I was totally unprepared for his reaction, but I felt pretty darned proud of myself.
New research suggests that maybe men shouldn't help out around the house after all.
What woman wouldn't want her husband's help with daily chores? After all, even if your husband thanks you and expresses gratitude for your housework, words only go so far. Plus, no one wants to feel taken for granted, and an overload of household chores can easily dampen the desire for romance.
When a marriage or any romantic relationship sours, an affair is a painful yet convenient way to escape. It's easy to blame the affair, blame the person the affair was with or basically blame everything except the real problem: that someone's needs were not being met, so that person found a way to have them met elsewhere.
Build a brain that can generate happiness in your relationship
As you may have noticed, happiness is not the mind’s priority. It is far more interested in survival and creating familiarity than it is in happiness.
Happiness is something that we have to decide to experience and then learn what are the internal levers that act to become our personal happiness generators.
Happiness is an inside job. Period. End of story. It is truly a state of mind, and it is our responsibility as adults to finally get this then learn how to create states of mind that generate more happiness.