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Relationships: Control Or Kindness

Relationships: Control Or Kindness

If your primary focus is to control your partner, then you may be having relationship problems.

What do you see when you look at your partner? When Carmella looks at Rudy, she sees his insecurity and withdrawal, which she does not find attractive. She sees his neediness when he pouts over not having sex. She sees his lack of motivation — he is not a go-getter. She sees his growing potbelly, which is the result of a lack of exercise. As a result of seeing all these "defects," Carmella is thinking of leaving Rudy.

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There's still hope for your marriage!

How To Save Your Marriage When You Feel Hopeless

If you think your marriage is unsalvageable, think again.

As a specialist in marriage rescue, here are the eight steps that Dr. Susan Heitler recommends for her clients who come to treatment feeling hopeless about their relationships.

Can an On-Again, Off-Again Relationship End in the Real Deal?

Can an On-Again, Off-Again Relationship End in the Real Deal?

Melanie Mar gives advice on whether or not an on-again, off-again relationship can end in marriage.

By Melanie Mar Happy endings happen in all different ways. So, when someone asks me if a relationship has staying potential when it’s constantly on-again, off-again, the answer is “yes.” Contrary to popular belief, on-again, off-again relationships can be the real deal.

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What's more important: a beautiful wedding or a happy marriage?

How Wedding Fever Can Ruin Your Relationship

Seven ways to keep your wedding from overshadowing your marriage.

Tom and Melissa spend their non-working hours fighting about, well, everything wedding-related. Tom is beginning to question whether he really wants to marry Melissa, and Melissa wonders why she never noticed how conventional Tom is. Does he really value his uptight relatives' opinions about the color of her dress more than he cares about her only opportunity to don her dream dress?

Should I Tell My Husband That I Cheated On Him? How Do I Decide?

Should I Tell My Husband That I Cheated On Him? How Do I Decide?

Should I Tell My Husband That I Cheated On Him? How Do I Decide?

I sometimes hear from wives who deeply regret cheating on their husbands. Often, the guilt is weighing heavily on them. Sometimes, they wonder if they wouldn’t feel better if they would just come clean and tell him. But somewhere deep inside, they suspect that once they tell him and let the cat out of the bag, their marriage might never be the same.

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Sh! It's a secret.

The Secret To Keeping Love Alive

According to a new book, love doesn't last. YourTango Expert Nancy Landrum begs to differ.

A romantic relationship that goes long stretches of time without moments of close connection eventually ends.

13 Sex Secrets of Married Couples

13 Sex Secrets of Married Couples

54% of married women and 68% of married men think their sex life is predictable. Yikes!

Ever wonder how your sex life stacks up to that of other couples? Probably…but relentlessly quizzing friends, coworkers, and strangers on the subway can get a little awkward. Good thing we have iVillage's recently-released 2013 Married Sex Survey. Keep reading for some of the most intriguing findings from married men and women all over the country: 1. 80% of men and 61% of women say they're happy with their sex lives.

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Come in, we're open!

Should We Tell Our Kids About Our Open Marriage?

Are you in an open marriage?

Recently, I was asked to appear on the Ricki Lake Show as an advocate for open marriages, but there was something distinctly missing from the discussion: namely, the concept of what an open marriage really is.

14 Signs That Show if a Midlife Crisis is Destroying your Marriag

14 Signs That Show if a Midlife Crisis is Destroying your Marriag

Your Midlife Crisis is Destroying your Marriage?Check these likely symptoms.

The unfortunate thing is that those going through a midlife crisis will vehemently deny that it’s what’s happening to them. Or, on the other hand, they will laugh you off for even suggesting it. From experience, observation, and studying the subject, I’ve found at that they seem to all sing from the same song sheet. Someone suggested that it’s like a midlife crisis alien virus takes over their system. Some of the likely symptoms are presented below: Midlife Crisis Sign #1

Nutritional Correlates Of A Healthy Marriage [EXPERTS]

Nutritional Correlates Of A Healthy Marriage [EXPERTS]

Research says you can eat, drink and exercise your way to a great marriage. Find out how.

"If the head and the body are to be well, you must begin by curing the soul." (Plato) Make no mistake about it – what we eat, drink, and otherwise ingest into our bodies has a significant effect on both our physical and mental health. The couples we have interviewed around the world who have great marriages know the importance of being healthy in BOTH a physical AND mental sense. Don’t shortchange your relationship by thinking otherwise.

Emotionally Focused Therapy Helps you Find the Raw Spots

Emotionally Focused Therapy Helps you Find the Raw Spots

All lovers have a raw spot in their emotional skin a hypersensitivity that is tender to the touch.

A raw spot originally forms from moments in a person’s past when attachment needs were repeatedly neglected, ignored or dismissed resulting in the person – the child, teenager or adult in a past romantic relationship – feeling: • Emotionally Deprived, or • Emotionally Deserted.