Dr. Romance helps a reader when they contact her about dealing with family members and trauma.
Dear Dr. Romance:
I've seen your website and I think you may be the exact person to be able to help me.
My wife and I have been married for just about 10 yrs., we have 3 beautiful children, and we live fairly comfortably (money is not too big of an issue). I grew up in a fairly affluent family, with good strong ethics -my wife calls us the 'Beaver Cleaver Family' .
How to avoid the hazards of an age gap in your marriage
It was the difference in their ages that killed the relationship...
At least this is what Supermodel Cindy Crawford seems to think. She recently opened up in an interview on Oprah’s Master Class about why she believes the 15 year age gap between she and ex-husband Richard Gere led to divorce after 4 years together.
Communication is one of the most important aspects of relationships; not all of it is verbal.
Those of you who have read my articles know that I am always talking about the importance of good communication, urging better communication, and giving skills for being better understood. Communication is one of the most important aspects of relationships; positive and negative. However, talk is not necessarily communication; and there are lots of non-verbal ways to communicate.
Keep your relationship on the right track by avoiding these common pitfalls.
Mistake #1: Not Dealing With Debt
Newsflash: Money is the #1 thing couples fight about. Fess up about your personal debt -- because for better or worse -- and then set up a financial game plan with our budgeter.
Mistake #2: Alienating Your Friends
Friends are key for a successful marriage, so tag along on those girls' nights out. Just because you're not guy-hunting doesn't mean you can't be a supportive wingwoman.
We’re bucking the studies to show you why and how you can be a parent and happy with your spouse too
Without a doubt, having kids can be stressful, expensive, exhausting and it can put a strain on your relationship. You’re suddenly responsible for the care and upbringing of this precious little person (or little people) and that can feel like a heavy weight that only gets heavier as the years go on.
A recent study of 1,630 married couples found that those with children reported lower “marital satisfaction” than those who did not have children.
"Life does not become easier; we become easier with life just as it is."
It wasn't drugs. It wasn't therapy. It was so much better than that.
There was a point in my marriage when things got weird. As a full-time freelancer, I often get lonely working from home. it wasn't really fair to rely on my husband as my sole social outlet when he came home from work. We were having fertility problems and real estate issues to boot. We were fighting constantly. Things felt hopeless. Then something changed: I discovered the solution (by accident, to boot.)
For you men who ask, "What Do Women Want?" Here are Dr. Romance's 11 Things Married Women Want
For you men who ask, "What Do Women Want?" Here are Dr. Romance's 11 Things Married Women Want:
Women value intimacy, safety for themselves and their children, and emotional connection. Therefore, they long for the following qualities in a man:
All too often in life, people fall in love blindly. They refuse to make note of how the actions of another person define them. They pay too much attention to words and way too little to actions.
The honeymoon is over ... now the real relationship work begins.
This is not marriage therapy or psychotherapy but intimacy counseling, a type of counseling that works on the marriage from the inside out. Most problems, hurt feelings or misunderstandings happen because people lack the closeness of intimacy in the marriage. When the intimate connection is gone or one spouse constantly feels rejected, then the other areas of the marriage begins to crumble. As human beings we crave touch, love, and intimate connection!
Dr. Romance advises a husband on communicating with his wife.
Dear Dr. Romance:
I suffer with sleeping alone in "our" bedroom while my wife of 14 years, sleeps in our two pre-teen sons' bedroom. I've tried to talk and reason with her about this important problem, only to fall on deaf ears. I'm desperate. What else can i do? How can i get an autographed copy of your book? I do a lot of reading in our bed since not much else ever happens.
Dear Reader:
