While in the U.K., women who are looking to get married are more inclined to lean towards divorced men, the opposite is true for the U.S. Second marriages tend to fail faster than first marriages. In this article, Mary Jo Rapini reveals some tips to help make sure a remarriage works out when a first marriage did not.
Do you have a marriage blueprint? You’ve probably had it since birth… Are your parents still together and still in love after 40 or 50 years? Then you’ve got the marriage blueprint, the blueprint that things have to be rosy and beautiful. This probably makes your dating very hard at time because you can’t seem to find somebody who loves you like Daddy loves you, or like Mommy and Daddy love each other.
With our fast paced society and the extreme demands hitting us from every side, more and more couples find negativity taking over their marriage. An abrupt injection of positivity into your relationship is the only way to change the environment before it is too late.
“You're just being jealous,” Randy's husband dismissed her criticism of his friendship with a woman on his co-ed soccer league. She brought up her concerns that he is spending an awful lot of time with this other woman-- at the field practicing, after matches celebrating and texting or messaging with her several times every evening.
Do you feel like you’re constantly on the go taking care of everyone? Does this seem to also apply to your love relationship or marriage? When there is tension or distance between you and your partner, are you the one who starts a conversation to get the two of you back to connecting? Are you the one reading and researching new strategies to make your relationship closer? If so, you might be feeling a little tired and maybe even resentful too!
Negative and hurtful statements can have the power to cut through the very fabric of the bond between two people in love. Words can damage and potentially destroy the foundation of your relationship. Make no mistake about it, words matter. While we have learned many lessons over the past 30 years from the thousands of happily married couples we have interviewed, one of the most interesting is about the importance of the words to our relationships.
A long hard day dwindled down to me walking my sorry butt into a car service station in Park Slope, Brooklyn and buying a ride home. An older women, in her mid-late 60s, is the driver. She wears her bleach blonde hair in a small high pony tail atop her head with a bright pink scrunchie and has these fantastic thick black glasses with a hearing aide. She is stunning. Oh and she has a GPS, as she states several times throughout the ride home, because 'I get lost all the time.'
Compare what you can do today with a phone, computer or another electronic device with what was possible 5 years ago and you'll be amazed! From opposite ends of your city (or even further), you can coordinate with your partner about who will pick up the dry cleaning or where you want to go for dinner. The two of you can share about amusing or thought-provoking events from your day immediately after they happen. Communication has been made so easy....and so difficult.
The Depth of a Man I was greeted this morning by a love note from my beloved. He had written an essay about love, and read it to me. Of his love for me, he said, “It is deep and profound, like the ocean." I felt undulating waves of affection rise up through me as I heard his words. I embraced his tenderness, his love, and the depth and glory of him. Every woman wants to be loved this way!
Do you fear making the wrong choice in marriage and have anxiety about making your relationship permanent, even though you feel in love? You are not alone. One of the most frequently asked questions I hear as a relationship coach is, "How will I know without a doubt this person is the right one to marry?"
Jessica and Cal have barely spoken to one another since their nasty argument 3 days ago. If they’re honest about it, they’ve barely spoken a kind and loving word to one another for several months. This latest disagreement about whether or not to move is just more of the same and it’s tearing them apart. Both wonder what happened to their marriage and if anything can be done to save it.