Mistake #1: Not Dealing With Debt Newsflash: Money is the #1 thing couples fight about. Fess up about your personal debt -- because for better or worse -- and then set up a financial game plan with our budgeter. Mistake #2: Alienating Your Friends Friends are key for a successful marriage, so tag along on those girls' nights out. Just because you're not guy-hunting doesn't mean you can't be a supportive wingwoman.
Without a doubt, having kids can be stressful, expensive, exhausting and it can put a strain on your relationship. You’re suddenly responsible for the care and upbringing of this precious little person (or little people) and that can feel like a heavy weight that only gets heavier as the years go on. A recent study of 1,630 married couples found that those with children reported lower “marital satisfaction” than those who did not have children.
There was a point in my marriage when things got weird. As a full-time freelancer, I often get lonely working from home. it wasn't really fair to rely on my husband as my sole social outlet when he came home from work. We were having fertility problems and real estate issues to boot. We were fighting constantly. Things felt hopeless. Then something changed: I discovered the solution (by accident, to boot.)
For you men who ask, "What Do Women Want?" Here are Dr. Romance's 11 Things Married Women Want: Women value intimacy, safety for themselves and their children, and emotional connection. Therefore, they long for the following qualities in a man:
This is not marriage therapy or psychotherapy but intimacy counseling, a type of counseling that works on the marriage from the inside out. Most problems, hurt feelings or misunderstandings happen because people lack the closeness of intimacy in the marriage. When the intimate connection is gone or one spouse constantly feels rejected, then the other areas of the marriage begins to crumble. As human beings we crave touch, love, and intimate connection!
Dear Dr. Romance: I suffer with sleeping alone in "our" bedroom while my wife of 14 years, sleeps in our two pre-teen sons' bedroom. I've tried to talk and reason with her about this important problem, only to fall on deaf ears. I'm desperate. What else can i do? How can i get an autographed copy of your book? I do a lot of reading in our bed since not much else ever happens. Dear Reader:
What do you see when you look at your partner? When Carmella looks at Rudy, she sees his insecurity and withdrawal, which she does not find attractive. She sees his neediness when he pouts over not having sex. She sees his lack of motivation — he is not a go-getter. She sees his growing potbelly, which is the result of a lack of exercise. As a result of seeing all these "defects," Carmella is thinking of leaving Rudy.
Tom and Melissa spend their non-working hours fighting about, well, everything wedding-related. Tom is beginning to question whether he really wants to marry Melissa, and Melissa wonders why she never noticed how conventional Tom is. Does he really value his uptight relatives' opinions about the color of her dress more than he cares about her only opportunity to don her dream dress?
I sometimes hear from wives who deeply regret cheating on their husbands. Often, the guilt is weighing heavily on them. Sometimes, they wonder if they wouldn’t feel better if they would just come clean and tell him. But somewhere deep inside, they suspect that once they tell him and let the cat out of the bag, their marriage might never be the same.
Ever wonder how your sex life stacks up to that of other couples? Probably…but relentlessly quizzing friends, coworkers, and strangers on the subway can get a little awkward. Good thing we have iVillage's recently-released 2013 Married Sex Survey. Keep reading for some of the most intriguing findings from married men and women all over the country: 1. 80% of men and 61% of women say they're happy with their sex lives.
The unfortunate thing is that those going through a midlife crisis will vehemently deny that it’s what’s happening to them. Or, on the other hand, they will laugh you off for even suggesting it. From experience, observation, and studying the subject, I’ve found at that they seem to all sing from the same song sheet. Someone suggested that it’s like a midlife crisis alien virus takes over their system. Some of the likely symptoms are presented below: Midlife Crisis Sign #1