We’ve got some good news and some potentially bad news about your marriage. First of all, the good stuff... So many headlines shout out scary news about infidelity. We read that 50% of all relationships will be destroyed by cheating. We hear about countless celebrities and political leaders who have been caught having affairs. Their marriages are left broken and in pieces. What’s actually good about this? It’s not true!
If you are not talking openly about money, there are probably other things that are being avoided that then add to the widening distance between you and your spouse.
Hubby Quality: He’s Honest Even if he’s a car salesman (aka professional liar) by day, he has to speak the truth (the whole truth and nothing but the truth) with you. Sure, there are certain occasions that warrant white lies, like if he’s trying to surprise you with an engagement ring or protect your feelings (“No, I didn’t notice that zit”). At all other times, though, he has to be straight with you--and not keep secrets from you.
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Are you and your spouse having trouble conceiving a child? Is it starting to take a toll on your relationship? If so, help is on the way.
“It’s my way or the highway!” This is what’s often implied when people set boundaries. A harsh and rigid message that says, “Either you stop and do things MY way or else!”commonly underlies a communicated boundary, even if this wasn’t the intention. When you decide to set a boundary, it’s usually when a minor irritation or annoyance has grow bigger. A behavior or dynamic that you’ve tried to ignore has become more intense and more upsetting and you’re ready for a change.
Most discussions on communication center around speaking. We learn about what we want to say, who we want to say it to, how we want to say it, and if we are even more aware, we actually think about what our intention is in saying it. We often prepare for a speech, a conversation or a meeting where we need to present ideas and information. But how often do you “prepare” to listen? How often do you think about the quality of your listening, or even ask yourself the question, “How do I want to listen?”
Dear Dr. Romance: I've seen your website and I think you may be the exact person to be able to help me. My wife and I have been married for just about 10 yrs., we have 3 beautiful children, and we live fairly comfortably (money is not too big of an issue). I grew up in a fairly affluent family, with good strong ethics -my wife calls us the 'Beaver Cleaver Family' .
It was the difference in their ages that killed the relationship... At least this is what Supermodel Cindy Crawford seems to think. She recently opened up in an interview on Oprah’s Master Class about why she believes the 15 year age gap between she and ex-husband Richard Gere led to divorce after 4 years together.
Those of you who have read my articles know that I am always talking about the importance of good communication, urging better communication, and giving skills for being better understood. Communication is one of the most important aspects of relationships; positive and negative. However, talk is not necessarily communication; and there are lots of non-verbal ways to communicate.
Mistake #1: Not Dealing With Debt Newsflash: Money is the #1 thing couples fight about. Fess up about your personal debt -- because for better or worse -- and then set up a financial game plan with our budgeter. Mistake #2: Alienating Your Friends Friends are key for a successful marriage, so tag along on those girls' nights out. Just because you're not guy-hunting doesn't mean you can't be a supportive wingwoman.
Without a doubt, having kids can be stressful, expensive, exhausting and it can put a strain on your relationship. You’re suddenly responsible for the care and upbringing of this precious little person (or little people) and that can feel like a heavy weight that only gets heavier as the years go on. A recent study of 1,630 married couples found that those with children reported lower “marital satisfaction” than those who did not have children.
There was a point in my marriage when things got weird. As a full-time freelancer, I often get lonely working from home. it wasn't really fair to rely on my husband as my sole social outlet when he came home from work. We were having fertility problems and real estate issues to boot. We were fighting constantly. Things felt hopeless. Then something changed: I discovered the solution (by accident, to boot.)
For you men who ask, "What Do Women Want?" Here are Dr. Romance's 11 Things Married Women Want: Women value intimacy, safety for themselves and their children, and emotional connection. Therefore, they long for the following qualities in a man: