Know the difference between jealousy and signs of an affair...
“You're just being jealous,” Randy's husband dismissed her criticism of his friendship with a woman on his co-ed soccer league. She brought up her concerns that he is spending an awful lot of time with this other woman-- at the field practicing, after matches celebrating and texting or messaging with her several times every evening.
Do you feel like you’re constantly on the go taking care of everyone? Does this seem to also apply to your love relationship or marriage?
When there is tension or distance between you and your partner, are you the one who starts a conversation to get the two of you back to connecting? Are you the one reading and researching new strategies to make your relationship closer? If so, you might be feeling a little tired and maybe even resentful too!
Negative and hurtful statements can have the power to cut through the very fabric of the bond between two people in love. Words can damage and potentially destroy the foundation of your relationship. Make no mistake about it, words matter.
While we have learned many lessons over the past 30 years from the thousands of happily married couples we have interviewed, one of the most interesting is about the importance of the words to our relationships.
An Interview with Lorraine, a 65 year old Cab Driver with a 40 year marriage under her (seat)belt.
A long hard day dwindled down to me walking my sorry butt into a car service station in Park Slope, Brooklyn and buying a ride home. An older women, in her mid-late 60s, is the driver. She wears her bleach blonde hair in a small high pony tail atop her head with a bright pink scrunchie and has these fantastic thick black glasses with a hearing aide. She is stunning. Oh and she has a GPS, as she states several times throughout the ride home, because 'I get lost all the time.'
Do this and not that for a close and happy relationship...
Compare what you can do today with a phone, computer or another electronic device with what was possible 5 years ago and you'll be amazed!
From opposite ends of your city (or even further), you can coordinate with your partner about who will pick up the dry cleaning or where you want to go for dinner. The two of you can share about amusing or thought-provoking events from your day immediately after they happen.
Communication has been made so easy....and so difficult.
Carista Luminare on the depths, challenges, and glories of a committed relationship.
The Depth of a Man
I was greeted this morning by a love note from my beloved. He had written an essay about love, and read it to me. Of his love for me, he said, “It is deep and profound, like the ocean."
I felt undulating waves of affection rise up through me as I heard his words. I embraced his tenderness, his love, and the depth and glory of him. Every woman wants to be loved this way!
Lion Goodman muses on the changeable nature of true love, from day to day, and from woman to woman.
Love is Not the Same
I woke up in bed, opened my eyes, and turned to look at my partner, Carista. She was still sleeping, one arm over her eyes, breathing softly. I felt my love for her. It was deep and profound, like the ocean.
Marrying the right person does not automatically lead to happiness ad bliss ever after.
Do you fear making the wrong choice in marriage and have anxiety about making your relationship permanent, even though you feel in love? You are not alone. One of the most frequently asked questions I hear as a relationship coach is, "How will I know without a doubt this person is the right one to marry?"