MARRIAGE ADVICE

Does your husband make less money than you? Breadwinner wives should never feel guilty. Here's how to deal with money conflicts in your marriage.

When you have answers to all your questions, you can walk down the aisle knowing you're marrying your true match.

Why does it always seem like a daunting task to get your husband to listen to you? Our expert shares her secrets.

After spending years working with couples who have been through a breakup or divorce, it seems that there are problems that keep coming up over and over again.

Without a general agreement between the two of you about core values, what issues that you care deeply about and how you want to live your lives together as a couple, your chances of being happily married for a lifetime are not good. As love and marriage experts, we know that you simply cannot marry a man who doesn't share your values.

Sean wrote in the following question on one of my free webinars about sexuality: "My wife and I have been married now for eighteen years and for the most part are still very happy together. A year or so ago a friend introduced us to Inner Bonding and both together and alone we have become familiar with the Six Steps.

You’ve asked politely. You hinted. You argued. You begged. When it comes to doing dishes, cleaning and laundry, you want your partner to share the load and your he either habitually forgets or refuses. Nothing seems to work to get your partner to take responsibility for a portion of the housework and so you do something you never thought you’d do...you reward him with sex.

[Note: In this article, I speak as a masculine man in relationship to feminine women. Please adjust the gender terms to suit your relationship life.] In previous articles, I described narcissism as an extreme form of selfishness. But narcissism goes beyond mere self-interest. It’s more akin to egotism — an excessive or exaggerated sense of self-importance. In the extreme, a narcissist exists alone at the center of his (or her) known universe.

Last weekend, I was at a good friend of mine’s wedding in the Catskills. I promised you last week that I would get an exclusive from him.  And I got it! Just to give you a little background on my friend. (I’ll call him “Mark.”) He was an avid dater. I mean, he had spreadsheets on the number of women he had dated. Yes, he was absolutely an eligible bachelor: good looking, nice family, kind, and good values. So you can imagine that when he hit the online dating market, there were a lot of women interested.  

Sex is so important to a marriage that many marriage therapists suggest scheduling time for intimacy, but couples complain that it feels forced. This is where a getaway comes in.

Are you sick and tired of being out with your guy and having to watch him watch other women the whole time? You've tried to ignore it. You've glared at him, pursed your lips and sighed dramatically. You've even tried talking to him about this disrespectful habit of his ... and he still does it!

For those of you who got married in your 20s, I think all of you got married too young. And it's because you simply don't know who you are until later in life.

  For two years, Kora had been having an on and off affair with her high-school sweetheart, a separated man who lived over a thousand miles away.  It ended when Sean, her husband, had discovered some letters in her desk drawer.  Because Kora and her lover lived so far apart it was easy for Sean to validate Kora’s claims that the affair ended. Moreover, her lover had reunited with his wife and family. 

You hear people talk about meeting their soulmate and scoff or roll your eyes...until it happens to you. When you least expect it, you bump into someone and everything feels so familiar. The more time you spend together and the more you get to know the person, the more it feels like you two are just supposed to be a couple. It’s like you and your love are puzzle pieces that fit together perfectly. This is what a soulmate relationship can feel like.

Couples support each other through good and bad financial times. However, before you decide that he's the right guy to marry, you need to take a serious look at how he views finances.

Nobody quite knows what to say when they discover their partner is having an affair? What can you say? You trusted in and believed in your partner and you feel let down and hurt. Here are some ways you can communicate to your partner how you feel and to see whether or not you want to give your relationship another chance.