Are you feeling resentful, ashamed, guilty, and/or anxious? Are you serving others' interests and not your own? You may be a victim of manipulation, and this personal development coach has a few tips to get you out of that corner.
Our everyday life is full of manipulation whether we are aware of it or not. Some salesman on the doorway, some doctors, some teachers, some officials, or some co-workers might use unfair communication tactics to get what they want. The difficulty is more serious if the manipulator lives with the family, not to mention if the manipulator is our otherwise beloved partner. S/he can be wonderful in various areas in our life but they still might use debilitating pressure on us towards others.
How many times have I felt that way and how often have I heard this sigh coming from others before I began to deal with Emotional Manipulation? Weeding out manipulative attempts from straightforward communication or rightful influence is not always an easy ride. Cloud of negative emotions Before I recognize my emotions, I feel my heart pounding and my breathing becomes labored.
According to a new study, the use of manipulation is one way to test partner's love. Manipulation as a technique for getting what we want is something we all learn as babies. Even before we have figured out that the Mommy is another person, we begin experimenting with how to get her to react to us in different ways. Of course we know how to whine and cry from the very beginning, and this gets a useful response at first. Soon we begin to try faking emotion in order to see how Mommy will react. Usually, Mom can tell the difference.
Why are in-law relationships so difficult? While some would suggest it's pure jealousy, I think it's more complex. Here are four steps useful for handling tense "in-law" situations this holiday season.
I was wondering: how many people get into these situations, when their partners, who are suppose to give them love, appreciation and support, turn against them? Still, others might wonder why they are not leaving their abusive partner, as well. Once in a while, most of us get handled in a non-respectful way, and it would be irresponsible to break up after every conflict. On the other hand, the unfair but usual maneuver of an abusive partner who makes the victim believe that she or he is responsible for the bad turns of events is completely unacceptable.
The most wide spread human activity on this Planet is not what you think!…What human beings do most, everywhere, anytime, is stealing other human beings' vital energy. As many Eastern healing arts and medicine (Traditional Chinese Medicine, Ayurveda, etc) describe, we are mainly made of energy, in different levels of density (we have 7 bodies, or energy fields around our physical body).
Have you ever felt like you were being used ... sexually? In this video, psychologist, sex therapist and YourTango Expert Dr. Megan Fleming answers the following question in this instructional sex video: "My wife manipulates me through sex. Whenever she wants something, she's interested in me sexually, but otherwise, she isn't. What gives?"
News Flash: Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise are divorcing. Many stories have indicated that Katie filed the divorce papers secretly, and Tom was blindsided with the news. Many people are asking why. While I don't know Katie and her reasons for using this tactic, I have talked to many women over the years and have witnessed multiple reasons to be secretive and careful when considering divorce.
What is Child Exploitation? The very words exploit means to use unfairly for one's own advantage. Sexual abuse can take the form of child exploitation for example, by photographing the child in a compromising situation, with the intent to either use the photos for their own sexual stimulation or to sell the photos as pornography. It can also mean kidnapping and selling children into prostitution, or even just forcing someone younger and weaker to do your will.
Many people are “relentless” givers. They give and give to another and when it is not appreciated, the giver becomes upset and indignant. How can you treat me like this after all I’ve done for you? Are you someone who goes into relationship after relationship giving and giving and receiving nothing, not even appreciation, in return? Do you always find yourself saying, “I’m such a good person. I’m so generous.
You walk into Starbucks® and see the menu of options. You wonder if you should you get the grande or the tall, the cappuccino or the latte. The line is moving and it is almost your turn. There is a little tension building inside of you about what to order as if the world will fall apart if you picked the wrong size. Then, you place your order and then all of a sudden the unpredictable becomes predictable, the tension releases, and with your mind empty you wait for your order.
Christine Donovan knew something wasn't right in her relationship when she didn't want to go home from work. "I felt anxious all the time," she says. "I never knew what kind of mood he would be in, or if I had unknowingly done something that would have upset him." But Christine wasn't in an abusive relationship—at least none that she had ever seen. "He didn't hit me or get violently angry. I just thought we were having normal relationship problems that we needed to work through," she says.