How Threat Emotions Cause Us To Misread Our Partner

The Mindset of Anxiety and Anger

Just how well do we read our intimate partners? As long as we’re composed, we’re generally pretty good at it. But whenever our threat emotions (i.e. anxiety and anger) are triggered, accuracy goes right out the window. Emotion-driven misinterpretations spell trouble for relationships. They lead to escalating accusations, disappearing trust and constricting hearts. If only we could recognize how emotions shape perceptions, we could restore close connections with our partner. That’s the aim of this primer.

Anger: Cleansing Squall or Hurricane? [EXPERT]

Learn how to effectively control your anger to get more of what you want from life!

Anger is the emotional energy within each of us that rises up when something needs to change. If you act on the need to create change, your anger can be channeled effectively. If it’s not redirected to something effective, your frustration will build, sometimes to hurricane force. Anger that is allowed to get out of control is as destructive as a hurricane, but anger that is expressed in healthy ways can “clear the air” just as a mild rainstorm does. If you express your anger clearly and cleanly, without too much drama, it will be like a cleansing rain, leaving you calm and relaxed. The problem will then be solved.

Sharing Your Negative Feelings & Bringing Him Closer [EXPERT]

Many women don't want to push men away with negative emotions but sharing can make him love you more

Do you find that you have a pattern of trying to hide your negative feelings from a man who isn't treating you the way you wish he would? When we women love a man and feel that his feelings for us are not as strong as ours are, we feel A LOT of intense, scary feelings, most of which are negative. We are bitter, sad, scared, anxious and even angry. We also feel like we have to hold these feelings inside. We feel we have to stuff them down, keep them under wraps, so that our man doesn’t get turned off by our draining emotions.

Emotional Intelligence: Not Just For Relationships [EXPERT]

Find out what your business needs to get an edge in 2012.

Running a successful business in our current economic climate takes more than just an excellent product or service. If you're a business owner, one of the most important New Year's Resolutions you can make is to run your business with greater "Emotional Intelligence" (EI). EI is a term popularized by Psychologist Daniel Goleman who defines it as "...the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves and for managing emotions well in ourselves and our relationships."

3 Easy Ways To Eliminate The Hurtful Thoughts Of Being Cheated On

Tips for getting through the emotions of Infidelity!

Being cheated on is the most painful experience a person can ever have. It can hurt you very deeply. No medication, not even the strongest painkillers, can take away this kind of pain after infidelity. Your partner is asking for forgiveness. He or she has shown genuine remorse for the things that have happened. Your partner is sorry for the hurt that he or she has caused you and is asking for a second chance.

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During Divorce: Act Rationally, Not Emotionally [EXPERT]

Take out your aggression on the treadmill, not in the courtroom.

Post-divorce is no time to be thinking with your heart. Yep, your heart is bruised and battered and you feel disillusioned by everything that's unfolded. Perhaps you feel like you were run over by a truck. Still, you have to think with your head.

The Basic Ways We Change [EXPERT]

Are you hurting, and want a way out? Learn the basic ways we make lasting change.

There are three ways in which we can actively monitor ourselves so that we may change how we interact with our surroundings: (1) Thoughts (cognitions) (2) Feelings (emotions) (3) Actions (behaviors) When you are in traditional counseling sessions--the counselor uses a variety of theories that typically focus on one of these areas to help you make changes in your life.

Help! My Child Is Screaming On The Floor, Now What?

Stop tantrums and meltdowns with these 5 creative tips.

Stop tantrums and meltdowns with these 5 creative tips. If you are a parent then you have faced the challenge of helping your child find ways to manage those big feelings that at times seem to over take them. Those feelings of frustration, anger, or sadness that appear to storm out of nowhere and take over your child. Often parents are bewildered by the behaviors attached to these feelings such as tantrums, yelling, crying, refusal, inflexibility, shutting down, or hitting.