Let’s be frank. Oral sex is a lot of fun (mainly for the person on the receiving end), but it is also supremely awkward. We know this, and we decided to break that awkwardness down into stages. You're welcome.
Okay, since I seem to be on a mission to take all the fun out of sex, let's continue our discussion by examining the fantasy of sex versus the reality, scientific-like. Let's really look at the things we have a habit of passing over in our quest to get it on and have a memorable experience (i.e. the things we tend to romanticize and forget).
Most women want to know how to please their men - in and out of bed. But guys aren't always so verbal about what they need. Try these five strategies to please your man, sexually and otherwise. Once you get the ball rolling and start figuring out the keys on how to please your man, you'll start noticing he becomes more generous as a lover, and your relationship will become much more pleasurable as a whole. Please Your Man Tip #1: Initiate, But Read His Cues
YourTango Expert Dr. John Grohol recently wrote about a study, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, which found that women's sex noises are not generally a reflex or consequence of orgasm, but rather an effort to help the man reach the finish line. The researchers found that a woman's "vocalizations" most often occurred around the man's orgasm, just before or simultaneously with ejaculation.
Eric Amaranth's blog on what he's doing to combat the never mentioned issue of penis desensitization due to solo sex with rough hands from weightlifting. This kind of subtle effect over time will degrade men's enjoyment of vaginal or anal intercourse.
Blow jobs are overrated. There. I said it. I know men who would fight a grizzly bear with a spork for a little mouth love. I also know women who guard their oral sexing technique the way a pharmaceutical company protects its most precious patents. But I'm just not a dude who loves blow jobs. I'm an active guy, when it comes to being intimate with a woman, and laying back and letting her go down on me has always felt passive to me. Disconnected. As if I could lean back and read The Economist or slurp a bowl of soup while being, uhhh, serviced.
Fellatio field guide author offers simple tricks for maximum pleasure. Oral sex: brilliant, isn't it? It’s ridiculously intimate, severely sensual, and you don't necessarily have to take all your clothes off to do it. Whether it's part of foreplay or an act in itself, being a skilled fellatrix ramps up your bedroom (or back seat of car) technique considerably. The best oral sex exponents use their mouths, their tongues, their fingers, their eyes, their voice and—most importantly—their brain (but not their teeth, unless it's been asked for). Here are the basic ground rules from a male point of view…
It turns out that sometimes sperm needs a little pick-me-up to fertilize an egg. The galvanizing (steeling, really) is called capacitation. So, it looks like the guy's end of baby-making isn't just some mechanical process. Also, Doc Morris Pharmacies in Germany have a crazy condom ad that may entice you to take prophylactics a little more seriously.
In our piece, The Myth Of The Male Orgasm, we wrote about men who have trouble reaching coming—it's not as uncommon as you think. In fact, an AskMen survey found that 23% of guys have faked an orgasm at some point. Women fake it for various reasons; a common excuse is not wanting to hurt his feelings. AskMen says that guys do it for the same reason. "The prevailing opinion is that men should be able to climax whenever, wherever and under any circumstance," which simply isn't true. Your dude might have trouble coming if he's tired, stressed or drunk, or if he's already climaxed that day. And if that's the situation, he might fake it. Ladies, here are some signs that he might be pretending.
Someone, somewhere has found a correlation between a city's divorce rate and its possession of a Major League Baseball team. Brilliant. The people at Major League Baseball saw that chatting about relationships has become America's new past time and figured out a way to get in on the action. Apple pie and mom were evidently not so easily bought.
Conventional wisdom has it that the female orgasm is shadowy, elusive and "complicated," while the male orgasm in the pre-Viagra years is a simple and straightforward affair. Men, we learn, are supposed to be worried about not coming. Yet contrary to popular belief, not all men experience sexual intercourse as an exercise in controlled cork-popping.
Despite being inundated with sexual media, we really have a lot to learn about human sexuality. And not just Joe and Jane SixPack. Scientists are still learning new things everyday about the chemistry, biology, and physiology of the sexuality. Particularly the female orgasm.