Abusive behavior is often excused by three simple words: I love you. Take a stand for yourself and break away from fake love and in to the real deal.
Learn how to create an environment where you and your partner can be honest. When lies happen, learn how to talk about them, ask about the truth, and move on.
Faking orgasms has unfortunately become a typical aspect of many relationships. However, if a partner finds out it can cause more problems than what you may have been trying to prevent. Read on to see what our expert says about stopping the faking and creating a healthier relationship.
"Is it normal that my husand ... ?" Have you ever asked yourself this question and wondered whether or not that thing your partner just said or did was okay? Many of us second-guess ourselves. We worry that we're making a big deal out of nothing. We don't want to start a fight or make things tense, but certain behaviors feel hurtful or seem like huge red flags.
As a couples therapist, one situation I’m confronted with often is when a relationship is shaken up by the discovery of a lie. It’s not always infidelity, but that is a classic example. In that first session with a couple who sees me after the discovery of an affair, both partners usually agree on what the problem is – one partner wronged the other, and that person typically sits in my office sheepishly, overcome by guilt, shame, and a vague sense of relief that the truth is finally out.
We may never know if Lance Armstrong's former girlfriends Kate Hudson and Sheryl Crow knew about his performance-enhancing drug use. But if he was able to successfully conceal it from various anti-doping agencies around the world for so many years, the women in his lives were likely duped as well ... begging the question: What chance would you have of knowing your date was a habitual liar?
After years of Lance Armstrong denying the use of performance-enhancing drugs during his cycling career, his recent confession is generating intense reactions from many people. The truth is it's often easy and more comfortable in these situations for people to stand on the outside peering in through a judgmental frame.
By GalTime Parenting Pro, Michele Borba, Ed.D., for GalTime.com Of course, you don't want to believe it, but the evidence and the concerned teacher are right in front of you: Your well-behaved, smart, attentive child cheated. Maybe you've caught your kid in a lie, or see the signs of suspicious storytelling in one of their friends.
A new survey shows that the average adult tells four lies a day, or 1,460 lies a year. Is it any wonder that our children tell fibs, too? Yet chances are when your child tells a whopper, it makes you mad. Why do kids lie? Kids lie for lots of reasons. One of the biggest reasons is to avoid punishment. After all, what child likes being grounded or losing privileges?
Some say flirting is harmless: some of those same people would argue that engulfing a male body part in one's mouth isn’t sex (we won’t mention names, given the trend to repent), while others insist that the mere thought of indiscretion is cheating. Given our culture’s penchant for bending the English language (and morals) to suit our purposes, wouldn’t it be nice if we had a few less erroneous benchmarks for foul play? Here are a few to consider:
Many of us tell small lies to avoid conflict, consequences and judgment. When your partner asks whether the blouse you're wearing is new, you tell a little white lie to avoid a conflict about finances. No, this blouse isn't new, I've had it for years, you say, when in fact you bought it last week. You didn't get to the cleaner today but want to avoid the judgment about your failure to take responsibilities seriously, so you fib, I had to work through lunch today, when in fact, you had lunch with your sister.
I had as date last night. Her name was Julie (not her real name, of course!) and she found me on a free dating site, OK Cupid. It’s a really great site that’s much more than just a dating site. Check it out if you’re not already a member. We went back and forth emailing for several weeks; spoke joyfully on the phone Wednesday night for about 90 minutes, and set the date for 5:00 PM after she finished work. I arrived about 15 minutes early and sat on a park bench sunning myself. It was glorious! She arrived 25 minutes later.
Every week, I hear people complain that they attract all the wrong people when they go on dating sites like Match.com or eHarmony. The opportunity is there to specify who you are and what kind of partner you would like, but most people go through tons of unappealing dates before finding someone suitable. So, what goes wrong?