Do you and your partner have a different level of desire for sex? Here's what you can do if you and your partner disagree when it comes to sex.
LOW SEX DRIVE
Wish there were a drug to increase desire in females, some sort of Viagra for Women? This maybe a surprise to some, but a tablet form of Viagra for women does not exist at the moment, the primary female sex organ does not sit between your legs, but rather on top of your shoulders! Of course we are referring to your brain.
A lot of people assume that a sex therapist's practice is filled with women who aren't interested in sex. Perhaps that was once the case, but things have changed over the past decade. Women have become more comfortable with sex and aren't afraid to ask their partner for what they want. Today, it's just as often a man who has low desire, and there are several reasons for this.
What do you know about low sexual desire in men? There are lots of myths around about what causes this sometimes very frustrating problem, but few people know the truth about low sexual desire in men. Check your own knowledge against the facts below. Myth #1: Low Desire Is Caused by Low Testosterone
It's natural for couples to have different opinions on what makes a great sex life. But if you're never in the mood (or he always is!), it's time to do a little personal development work.
It is often a bit too easy for passion and intimacy to be lacking in relationships - especially lesbian relationships. Where did it go wrong? How can it be fixed? Learn how to be proactive and get your relationship back to where it used to be.
Postpartum depression can be brought on by changes in hormone levels that occur after pregnancy. Any woman can get postpartum depression in the months after childbirth, miscarriage, or stillbirth.
Is your low libido causing problems in your relationship? Are you unable to keep up with your spouse's sex drive? Good news: you're not alone. In this instructional sex video, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and YourTango Expert Janie Lacy explains that it's common — especially for women — to experience this problem. Her advice? Start by seeing a doctor to rule out any potential physical or hormonal complications that might be causing your libido to drop.
I am with a man who used to be very passionate and loved to make love to me and now he doesn't make love to me at all and its been this way for a couple of years now. He is 9 years older than me and I am 56. I am very attraction, sexually appealing, so men tell me, and have a positive attitude and am very kind and understanding. We don't even sleep in the same bed anymore. He says he loves me and we will be together forever and he's a nice man and is respectful but I miss the passion that was once there.
Are you in a committed relationship with a man who refuses to have sex with you? If so, you are NOT alone. Many women are sexually unfulfilled in their partnerships. Take comfort in knowing this and in knowing that, in most cases, his lack of desire has NOTHING to do with him thinking you are not beautiful or in good enough physical shape for him to want to enjoy your body through sex.
Traditional advice suggests "spicing things up" with toys or bedroom games, but it's hard to imagine finding the enthusiasm to browse at a sex store when simply thinking about doing the deed exhausts you. Sexuality coach Pamela Madsen suggests an unusual approach: reading.
According to a group of new studies, young women between the ages of 18 and 30 are suffering from low libido at rates never seen before: 43 percent of women have sexual problems, they say. And 1 in 10 women doesn't want to have sex at all, trumpeted a recent ABC News story. The weird part isn't the fact that women are reporting what experts like to call "sexual dysfunction," but that women this young are: Usually we think of sexual issues as the stuff that plagues the over-40 set. But sexperts are now blaming 20-somethings with low libido on everything from stress (we're worried about our jobs/working longer hours) to birth control/antidepressants (both are potent chemical cocktails that can make lust dry up), and, well, Hollywood.
I've dated several guys who, from what I can tell, have a take it or leave it attitude toward sex, with an emphasis on leaving it. Why, you may ask, did I, someone who writes about sex almost every day, wind up with them? I don't really know, but I did. And the worst part about it is not the physical withdrawal; I'm not the kind of girl who needs to do it every day (though that would be nice). The worst part is the feeling of rejection that cuts really, really close to home. When I experience that, it's like taking all the fears I have about my attractiveness and boiling them into one pointed barb: you're not pretty/sexy/fun/cool/hot/exciting enough to f**k.
It seems in our world today, a lot of women (more than your think) have trouble becoming aroused. Call it stress, blame it on the economy, or fault low hormone levels, doctors are still trying to figure out why some ladies just can't get their sex drive.