What is the most stressed part of your body during holiday gatherings? At first response you may say stomach. As we delve deeper the most active or stressed organs during these gatherings is our heart and mind. That’s why it’s so important to plan with the diligence what we are going to: say, do and feel during these intimate interactions.
Romantic love — the kind that urges you to meld with a like-minded mate. The force that inspires you to write untraceable letters to a forbidden lover. The irresistible urge for which you will risk your family, your security, your country and your life!
Do you want a man that is confident, ambitious, honest, loyal, loves what he does, makes a lot of money, and treats you like a queen? Do you want to be identified as being a part of a power couple? Of course you do! What woman doesn’t? This weekend I was in a room filled with successful women and men, and there was a lot of couple envy going around. What I mean by couple envy is a single woman would see another woman dating a man that was super successful and instantly feel a twinge of jealousy.
Six months after my husband died, I decided to venture out into the single’s world. I sauntered into a swanky downtown Chicago restaurant with a divorced female friend. She left me perched on a bar stool to go to the restroom. I stared at the glassware on the shelves behind the bar and a guy suddenly appeared, “So when did you get divorced? I replied, “I didn’t get divorced.” He said, “Well where’s your husband?”
Right about now you might be asking yourself “am I really going to read this article?” So I am going to answer that for you, “YES, you are” because I may be one of the few men qualified to write about such important and critical matters! Allow me to explain:
Red flags: those signs you can spot so easily in your best girlfriend’s relationship are often difficult to recognize in your own. It’s those subtle, yet you-know-something’s-not-right feelings that are rationalized away which creates obstacles to lasting love. As a relationship coach, I hear stories from women who want to believe they are somehow overreacting to uneasy vibes in a relationship. Most of the time, they describe cautionary cues pointing to what they are trying to hide from themselves: the end of the dream of lasting love with that person.
If you haven't heard this yet, hear it now. You've got to learn to love yourself! Are you still single? Yeah, still single? Damn. Right. Yeah. I know you are missing love and wanting love and hoping for love. But let me interrupt... first you have got to love yourself. It’s time to make a shift gay girl. You’ve got to love yourself and stop waiting for love to show up in someone else. You are already full of it; love that is but you’re not using it.
Here is a common relationship scenario that any woman who has ever been in a relationship has most likely experienced. Your guy isn't doing something you want him to do (and know he's capable of doing), you call him out on it, he withdraws and not only does he not do the thing you asked, he may even do the opposite.
“Myths and superstitions have power over us only to the extent that we believe them, but when we believe, we live completely under their spell and in that fiction. Scarcity is a lie, but it has been passed down as truth and with a powerful mythology that insists on itself, demands compliance, and discourages doubt or questioning.”- Lynne Twist, in her bestselling book, The Soul of Money.
As a relationship expert, one of the most common complaints I hear from couples is that they just don't have the same feelings they did in the beginning of their relationship. Can you relate to this?
Yes, it's normal to have sex before marriage, meaning that almost everyone does it. After all, there are few things more tempting than the urge to make love with the new guy you're falling madly in love with. But is it healthy?
I had a recent experience that accidentally pointed out a powerful truth about the way we operate as people. Understanding this truth makes all the difference between whether your relationships will improve and change for the better, or continue to stay the same and disappoint you.
We are attracted to each other at our common level of woundedness and our common level of health. What does this mean? For example, Jackson, a very attractive man in his early 50s, had been married three times and had been in many relationships. He consulted with me because he was tired of going from relationship to relationship. He wanted a long-term relationship. "Even though each relationship seems to be very different than the last one, in the end they all turn out to be the same."
Staying in love forever? Is that really possible? It certainly is although you would never know it given all the attention problem relationships receive. If you’re married or in a committed relationship in love feelings are what make that relationship unique. When partners promise to “love honor and cherish” one another they are in effect promising to stay “in love”.