A romantic relationship that goes long stretches of time without moments of close connection eventually ends.
It was another Saturday night alone for me as a single woman. I sat in my apartment feeling very alone, unworthy, and rejected. I remember lying there on my bed in the fetal position, after a particularly painful breakup (with a man I had hoped was my soulmate) earlier in the day. The problem was, this scene that I’m describing was not an unusual occurrence in my life. I’d had this happen before. Me, sobbing, writing in my journal, and then calling a girlfriend to do a tear-filled, curse-word-filled, post-mortem on the relationship. Can you relate?
When I was single, I remember getting together with my single-and-hating-it girlfriends one night to do a “vision party”. We cut out magazines and inspirational words of our ideal lives with our soulmates to put into a vision binder. This was over 14 years ago, way before the movie The Secret came out and the “Law of Attraction” became such a common phrase. We spoke blessings over our visions. We drank wine. We cried. We laughed. And even saged our visions, lit candles, burned incense. We were going to manifest our soulmates, dammit!
As you may have noticed, happiness is not the mind’s priority. It is far more interested in survival and creating familiarity than it is in happiness. Happiness is something that we have to decide to experience and then learn what are the internal levers that act to become our personal happiness generators. Happiness is an inside job. Period. End of story. It is truly a state of mind, and it is our responsibility as adults to finally get this then learn how to create states of mind that generate more happiness.
Poems have been written about it. Songs have been sung about it. Researchers spend hours toiling in their labs trying to come up with a formula for it. However, the question has remained a mystery until now. We perpetually ask and wait with baited breath for the answer to the question, “How do we keep love alive?”
Sure, you adore your kids, but let's face it, they sure make it tough for you to enjoy a spontaneous sexual romp with their dad. So, if you are in the mood for some adult time this Valentines Day, here are five ways to fan the heat without splurging on a sitter or a fancy restaurant.
It’s the month of love, and with Valentine’s Day fast approaching, it’s easy for single girls to feel a bit left out. We may yearn to be in a loving relationship, especially around this time of year, but what many of us don’t realize, is that in order to find happiness as part of a couple, we need to first feel happy being single. Also, just because you don’t have a boyfriend right now, doesn’t mean you don’t have lots of love to give, whether it’s on a pet, a family member, or friends.
Valentine's Day. It’s just a day, right? Wrong. Expectations are high. Disappointments are high. Self love and appreciation seem to be at an all-time low on this one particular day of the year. Perhaps that this is why there are more relationship break-ups on this day than any other day of the year.
If you’ve been looking for love in all the wrong places (literally and figuratively) and haven’t found it yet, there may be something going on in your mind that’s blocking Love from coming to you. You see, love is your natural state. It’s your birthright. If you’re wanting it, and it’s not coming to you, you may have a Love Blocking Belief or two or three that’s keeping true love away from you.
Those hide at the back of the room, cringe-worthy, embarrassing, self-silencing and even ashamed moments don't stop when you become an adult. As just about every one of us knows, it's not only teenagers who struggle with low self-confidence. Low self esteem and insecurity plague people of any age.
The 7 Step Cookie Jar Method To Have An Epic Dating Life & Great Communication I’m always talking about dating, sex, love and relationships with all kinds of people that I meet from all walks of life, and I pay attention to what they say. A man I know, who I kind-of met online, and kind-of met in a coffee shop, have become great friends and you can guess what our favorite topics is… relationships.
And then you blink, and you are in our 50s. You finally get to start living some of your dreams instead of just planning them. All your experiences before then — the joyful, educational and even the painful — prepared your for creating a delicious life in the years ahead — a life that most definitely includes grownup love.
It's February, the month of love! In an article published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, researchers found that couples who value their friendship over other aspects of their relationships report greater romance and sexual satisfaction over couples who look to their partners mostly for sexual gratification.
Do you remember Valentine's Day growing up? I do. I remember all the angst of swapping heart-shaped candies and sappy cards with my peers in class. It was a ritual at my elementary and middle-school for all the kids to exchange candies and cards. You do remember those heart-shaped candies that taste like chalk with stamped sayings on them like 'be mine' right?
What kind of friend are you to your spouse? New research shows that having a strong friendship bond with your partner is the secret to having a long lasting romantic relationship. While that is not a surprising revelation about relationships and marriage in particular, this information does serve as a checkup to the state of one’s friendship within the relationship.