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Give Us Your Best Love Advice

In honor of Mother's Day 2009, the YourTango staff collected love advice from our mothers. We also asked you, devoted YourTango readers, to share your best love life advice with us for the chance to win a McLeod's Daughters Season 8 DVD set. The caliber of your responses stunned us. Unfortunately, we could choose but one lucky winner: Qverb! Here's a sample of the advice he had to share with us:

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RIP Helen -- you will be missed
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6 Life And Love Lessons From Helen Gurley Brown

Not everyone sees Helen Gurley Brown as a great feminist. Some, in fact, see her as completely the opposite of that. As the editor of Cosmopolitan for 32 years, she celebrated sex and consumption. And in her interviews and bestselling book, Sex and the Single Girl, she advocated for men footing the dinner bill and women using their feminine wiles as a weapon. But a new book by Jennifer Scanlon argues that Gurley Brown was, in fact, one of the great trailblazers, right up there with Betty Friedan (The Feminist Mystique) and Gloria Steinem. Entitled Bad Girls Go Everywhere: The Life of Helen Gurley Brown, the biography inspired us to look back on some of the late, great editor's wisest words, and the lessons we can take away from them.

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LOVE LESSONS

I've learned that sometimes in relationships you learn more about yourself than the person you're with.I LOVE the man that I'm with, he's the bestfriend I wanted for so long. We talk about everything and everyone. The laughs that we share are so irreplaceable. It's truly the little things that keep us holding on. We currently had a big dispute about some he said she said stuff and I wanted to end it with him. My heart would allow me to let go. I played hard ball acting like I didn't want him here anymore but I was fooling myself. This is the man who's been with through everything and I couldn't just give up just because of some BS. I would consider myself to be confident whenever I'm in a relationship but my confidence doesn't erase the fact that other women like to look, flirt, and be with good man too. That's what I got a GOOD MAN!

What Advice Would You Give Your Younger Self?
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What Advice Would You Give Your Younger Self?

Essence.com asked its readers to write advice to their younger selves, as if they were stepping back in time to give themselves a good, hard, loving shake. The comments shared are both poignant and revealing, much like Pepper Schwarz's "5 Things I Wish I Knew About Sex at 30." Here's a handful of 10 favorite bits of love-tested wisdom:

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No more pencilling yourself in.
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Your Sex Life (After Kids) [VIDEO]

Getting a chance to spend some quality time with your partner after having kids isn't as simple as you may think. Gone are the days of being able to intimate with your spouse at any given moment; now that your children are in the picture, your sex life is going to get a whole lot more creative. Author Kimberly Ford shares stories from her new book, Hump: True Tales of Sex After Kids. 

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Love Advice From An Unlikely Source

Economist, lawyer, writer and actor Ben Stein explores economic theory for lessons on love ("realistic expectations are everything," and "when you have a winner, stick with your winner") and we add some ideas of our own (diversify your portfolio).

Should You Wait For Commitment Or Walk Away?
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Should You Wait For Commitment Or Walk Away?

For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: dating and commitment. Question: I just started seeing this guy, and I think I'm falling for him. He tells me that though he likes me, he's still actively seeing other people. Should I wait for him to commit to me exclusively, or do I more on before I get too close? –Liza, 26

What's Your Emotional EQ?
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What's Your Emotional EQ?

Compatibility is the key to success in a relationship, right? Not so fast says Dr. Patricia Covalt. It turns out that empathy and understanding go much farther than mutual interests in determining success in marriage. She lays out a handful of smart questions that will help you determine your EQ (Emotional Intelligence) and may help you to make yours a successful long-term relationship.

How To See Bald As Beautiful
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How To See Bald As Beautiful

Want advice on sex, love, dating and relationships? Ask an expert with personal experience, or in this case, two experts. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They have been married for 15 years. Together they provide a his and hers take on your questions. This round: dealing with baldness and the aging process.

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Is Having Sex With Your Ex OK?

I just broke up with my boyfriend of three years, but he's still hoping we'll end up together. Neither of us is dating anyone new, so we still have "ex-sex" occasionally. He insists he can handle it emotionally, but is it wrong to continue when I have no intention of getting back together with him?

Can You Stay Friends With An Exes' Mom?
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Can You Stay Friends With An Exes' Mom?

For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: staying close to an ex's family. Question: I'm in the midst of breaking up with my longtime boyfriend, and I'm extremely close to his mother. Realistically, I know that she and I probably can't be in each other's lives anymore, but that breaks my heart. What's my obligation to her as I end this relationship with her son? What can I expect from her going forward, if anything?–L.C., San Francisco, Calif.

Should I End It After Our Vacation?
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Should I End It After Our Vacation?

For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: when's the best time to break up?Question: My girlfriend of two years and I are traveling to South America this fall to attend her best childhood friend's wedding. We've been planning this trip for almost a year, including two extra weeks of trekking in the Andes with some friends afterwards. Here's the problem: Without going looking for anything, I met someone else, and I want (and need) to end my current relationship, even though it kills me to think of hurting my girlfriend. If it weren't for this upcoming trip, I would have already done it. Should I tell her what's going on before we go or after we get back? —R.S., Boston, Mass.

Tips for Being the Best Dad You Can Be
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Tips for Being the Best Dad You Can Be

For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: fatherhood responsibilities. Question: As I lie here at 3:42 a.m. thinking about my breastfeeding wife down the hall losing sleep, I wonder: Do I have any real responsibility to help my crying baby at night when human physiology has not yet provided me with the ability to breastfeed? – R.M., Reno, Nev.

Should I Tell My Date I Want A Baby?
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Should I Tell My Date I Want A Baby?

For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: pregnancy and dating. Question: Entering my forties as an unattached woman, I decided to try to have a baby on my own. Weeks after starting an artificial insemination program, I've met a really great guy. When do I tell him about the A.I.? Odds aren't great that I'll actually get pregnant, and it could end up freaking him out for no reason. —O.S., San Francisco, Calif.