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Expert: How To Reinvent Your Love Life
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Expert: How To Reinvent Your Love Life

Once upon a time, I thought time had run out on my chance to get love right. While all my friends were marrying, settling down, and starting families, I was once again staring at the smoldering remains of yet another failed relationship with yet another Mr. Wrong. The perpetual bachelorette in my social circle, I had a job my friends envied, owned my own condo, took amazing vacations, and always had fabulous plans on the weekends. I was even saving money for retirement like a smart, savvy woman should. On paper, my life looked amazing. In reality, I felt like a complete and total failure.

4 Common Mistakes Single Women Make
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4 Common Mistakes Single Women Make

I recently attended a screening of The Backup Plan with Jennifer Lopez. In the film, Jennifer plays Zoe, an ex corporate type who's reinvented her career and, on the verge of turning 40, decides to reinvent her personal life too. With no Mr. Right in sight, Zoe decides she's not waiting any longer to start a family. After getting artificially inseminated, Zoe meets Mr. Right. As I watched the movie, I couldn't help but notice that Zoe made many of the common mistakes my single women clients have made in the past. In fact, she committed 4 of the cardinal dating sins that keep single women minus a Plus One...

What's Your The Backup Plan?
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What's Your The Backup Plan?

I recently attended a screening of Jennifer Lopez’s new film The Backup Plan. In the movie, Jennifer plays an ex-corporate 39 year old woman who left her lucrative tech job because it wasn’t satisfying, launched her passion project, a high end pet boutique, and without Mr. Right in sight decides to get artifically inseminated. Within weeks, she’s pregnant. Enter Mr. Right. Hilarity ensues as this Type A woman tries to navigate the sweet surrender of imperfect, beautiful love, motherhood, and work. As the closing credits rolled, I couldn’t help thinking: Love is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.

The Art of Mastering The First Date
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The Art of Mastering The First Date

In 2010, finding someone to date isn't nearly as tricky as mastering the art of dating. Between online dating, singles events, and the old-fashioned in-person meet and greet, it's possible to date someone new on a regular basis. But how do you make the most of these chances to meet your perfect partner? How can you ensure that a first date, good or bad, is a learning experience rather than a missed opportunity? The following are the top five dating don'ts, followed by helpful dating do’s...

The Art of Mastering The First Date
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The Art of Mastering The First Date

In 2010, finding someone to date isn't nearly as tricky as mastering the art of dating. Between online dating, singles events, and the old-fashioned in-person meet and greet, it's possible to date someone new on a regular basis. But how do you make the most of these chances to meet your perfect partner? How can you ensure that a first date, good or bad, is a learning experience rather than a missed opportunity? The following are the top five dating don'ts, followed by helpful dating do’s...

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Together Forever But Not Married? Advice You Need

A 2006 Pew Research study found that about a quarter of unmarried Americans (23 million) say they are in unmarried committed romantic relationships. A slice of this population is what I dub "a little bit married": They live together, go on each other's family vacations and own pets together, but aren't yet engaged. In my new book, A Little Bit Married: How to Know When It's Time to Walk Down The Aisle or Out the Door, I conclude that "a little bit married" (ALBM) is a recent cultural phenomenon, taking place especially among college-educated, upwardly mobile, twenty- and thirty-somethings.

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3 Ways To Change Your Bad Dating Attitude

Face it: Being single isn't always empowering and fun. Sure, you get all that "me time" to read a new novel, focus on work, apply a deep-cleansing mask when no one is looking or reconnect with girlfriends over cocktails. Still, being single can make you feel frustrated, angry, not worthy of love and even hopeless. That bad attitude could also be the reason you're single.

American Idol = Love Doctor?
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American Idol = Love Doctor?

I confess. I may be the only dating coach in America who doesn't watch The Bachelor for research. And I didn't do a big media blitz around Valentine's Day either. I just don't buy into the hype. This may be my greatest asset, or a horrible business decision. However, one TV show I always make time for, regardless of the often-ridiculous hype around it, is American Idol.

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How To Fall In Love With Mr. Good Enough

The problem with a list, I realized, is that it’s hard to translate the bullet points into a real, live human being. The fact is, you can’t make a list that doesn’t either oversimplify or take things out of context. For instance, even if you make a list of qualities you want, they aren’t all weighted equally (is height as important as honesty?), and with many qualities you want, it’s not like people have them or they don’t. Often, they have some degree of that quality—like sense of humor or financial stability—which may not be exactly what you had in mind when you wrote it down. Lori Gottlieb tells us why dating Mr. Good Enough might be a better idea than dating Mr. Right.

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For The Guys: How To Lock Down A First Date

Earlier this week, Telegraph newspaper ran an article in which they listed nine tips for men to secure a first date, including "learn to dance," and "be patient." In a real mind-twist, the article also suggested men "ignore all dating tips they find online." Better advice would have been to ignore dumb dating tips online. Men don't need to learn to two-step to secure a first date, but there are some helpful strategies that can actually go a long way in making that first step — asking a woman out — more successful. After the jump, eight ways a men can score a first date (no dance class required!).

Twitter Top 10: Guys To Follow For Love Advice
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Twitter Top 10: Guys To Follow For Love Advice

Here, we present you with the top 10 guys you should be following on Twitter, guys who tweet about love, dating, relationships and the bro code. Because sometimes it's nice to have that demystifying male perspective. Follow these guys for love, dating and relationship advice, plus insight into the male mind.

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10 Signs He's Not The One

Some people say they "just knew" that they were dating their future spouse. But what about the rest of us? What happens when you're not sure if he's The One? If you're considering long-term commitment or marriage, it's time to ask yourself some tough questions. Below, ten signs that may indicate he's not the one for you.