How much energy do you spend trying to get what you want from your partner? Think about it for a moment - how much of your thinking time is spent on what to say to your partner to get him or her to be the way you want him or her to be? Many of us spend a lot of time thinking about how to get what we want from our partner - how to get our partner to open up, be more caring, see us, love us, pay attention to us, spend time with us, have sex with us, and so on.
Is prejudging blocking your love connections? How often do you prejudge?... Do you know you prejudge? Typical scenario Blind Date/First Date Head Drama: Your friend sets you up on a blind date. You are curious and want to find love so you go. You pull up already anxious and guarded thinking that this person may not be what you want. You walk into the restaurant and there standing in front of you is a man/woman waiting for you.
So you are still looking for that elusive man or woman of your dreams. Or maybe you have already spotted him/her. Maybe you have even managed a second or third date with that person. Or you have snagged the birdie already - you are married! There are four ways that you can grow your relationship from good, (or even average) to great! Now, you understand that none of us come "ready" when it comes to building a strong relationship.
Most people have an tendency to fear any type of fight in a relationship. Couples award themselves based on the fact they don’t fight, when in fact that fight you have been avoiding is the best thing you can do for your relationship. What are you really avoiding when you don’t fight? ·Being seen, Being heard, Being known and fully knowing another.
That’s right, I said the “F” word…FIGHT!!! This misunderstood, undervalued and feared experience that people avoid and couples run from has got a bad rap. The possibility of “the fight” stirs up so much for people and yet, without it the passion wanes. The point that I want you to hear is that fighting is not bad, unhealthy & does not mean it’s beginning of the end.
5 Tips to Build Your Confidence & Get Your Date On! It's time to Date & Love like you've never been hurt before! 1) Get out of your comfort zone...try something new. Drive a different path, go to a different coffee shop or supermarket. In a relationship?...Try a new sex position, take a class together, learn something new & teach it to your partner, be the initiator. Are you always the one leading?... Allow yourself to be lead. Just Mix it up & change the routine!
That Apple CEO Steve Jobs, who died today, Oct. 5, 2011, was a visionary on a large scale is undisputed, but it's the small-scale personal ways in which he has affected all of our lives that really resonate. And not just by making our lives more convenient with his products, but by inspiring us to live better with his own life.
Falling in love can come from two different inner states. When you fall in love from the wounded self – the ego self – you are in love with how the other person loves you. You are handing over to the other person the responsibility for your self-worth and wellbeing, and if he or she does a good job of attending to you in the way you want to be attended to, then you may say you are “in love.” However, it is not so much the person you love, but how he or she loves you and connects with you. When it feels as if you can’t live without the other person, it is emotional dependency. The part of you that is ‘in love’ is really a child or adolescent who is needy for love because you are not giving love to yourself or to others. There is an emptiness inside that you expect someone else to fill, because you are not taking responsibility for your own feelings of aliveness, joy, passion and self-worth. You are attaching your worth to another’s love, which is why you can’t live without that person.
By CupidsPulse.com Kailen Rosenberg is a nationally respected Elite Matchmaker, who has helped many singles and couples find and restore love throughout the years, including celebrities, CEO’s and public figures. She has a gift for bringing you back to the person you really are deep-down inside and helping you to shed the hard-coated exterior that society has forced you to wear. Rosenberg is best described as a “love architect.”
If you’ve ever seen any type of dating advice about how to make someone feel special on a date, the advice is usually geared toward guys who want to make a woman feel special. But what about the woman who wants to go out of her way to make her man feel special? Men love validation just as much, if not more than women, and it is important to show him that you appreciate him. Here are the ABCD’s of making him feel as special as he makes you feel.
As children, most girls are introduced to Disney movies before the ability to speak in complete sentences. While Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast and The Little Mermaid are inspirational on many levels, the fairytale element is the same: Guy likes girl, guy woos girl, guy and girl live happily ever after.
When I was 24 years old I fell madly in love. I was madly in love for three weeks, and then spent the next 30 years struggling to regain and maintain that wonderful feeling. In the course of my long marriage and in the many years I've been counseling individuals and couples, I've learned what it takes to keep love alive, and what diminishes the feelings and experience of love.
As a relationship counselor, I am constantly being asked why so many relationships fail. In the many years that I have worked with couples, I have discovered five major relationship killers: Controlling Behavior Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear motivates various forms of controlling behavior. Controlling behavior falls into two major categories – overt control and covert control.
Many of us have been raised to think that we will find love when prince charming comes to rescue us on his big white horse. Obviously, we're too old to believe in fairy tales now, but subconsciously, our expectations are still the same. We believe that until we have the right partner, love will remain a distant dream, when in fact, nothing could be further from the truth. By accepting the following three fundamental truths about love, you will be on your way to developing new patterns and finding the love you want.
Earlier this week, we asked our Facebook fans what their parents taught them about love. This simple question generated dozens of different answers, ranging in everything from "it's unconditional" to "it never lasts."
The pop star is taking her lovelorn anthems—including her new single "Sparks Fly"—across the country in one of the biggest tours this summer, but her lyrics seem to have gotten a little help from a literary predecessor. Can you guess which lines are by the young songstress and which were penned by the "Pride and Prejudice" author?
It really is as simple as making the other person feel connected. Guess what? DON'T FOCUS ON TALKING! Or pouting, or slamming doors, or happily acting like everything's ok. Often the results of talking things out end in further frustration and alienation. In no way am I saying don't discuss big and small issues with your partner. What I am saying is that if you or your partner do not feel CONNECTED to the relationship, then trying to talk about ANYTHING is not going to work at making you feel loved, valued, or heard.