As an ex-Catholic, I’ve had to practice giving up guilt around the conscious pursuit of pleasure in my life. I tend to agree with Napoleon Hill in Think & Grow Rich: "Ask life for great gifts and you encourage life to deliver them to you." I made up the following list for both a speech I gave and a column I wrote. I’m not elaborating much on any of my 11 guidelines here, because I hope you will put your own imagination to active use in seeing how they apply personally.
Today, I’m writing this from a place of feeling defensive. Yep, I feel a little defensive and protective about the conscious and intentional journey to your soulmate. Why? Because in this society, many people don’t even believe in soulmates. I’ve gotten a lot of flak over the years from people who tell me it’s not even possible to find your soulmate.
Ever sense that your special date is too focused on fun to settle down in a relationship? Does your date say and do everything right–except commit to a relationship? It doesn't matter if you're seeking your great love match through online dating, matchmaking services or in chance meetings. When you date to find love, you need to recognize dates who just might be too good to be true to you. How do you decide if a dating relationship works for you? I'll walk you through the process.
When my husband of two years said to me “I don’t know if I can do this anymore,” I reacted like most- I groveled. I said I would change. Things would be different. I wouldn’t nag him so much, require so much, ask as much. I would keep it together all the time. I would do the things he wanted.
It can be so easy to become complacent in your relationship. I often hear couples complain about not feeling appreciated or valued by their partner. Things become routine and chore-like and eventually something that used to feel so fun and intoxicating has now become stale and routine-like. Resentment and regret begins to take over and you find yourself arguing the stupidest little things. The love is still there but things have started to break down and eyes have begun to wander.
In my world view, trumpets have elevated their stature. My 10 year old daughter Isabelle just started in her school band this year and has decided that the trumpet is her instrument of choice. And honestly? I wasn’t that excited about it when she first told me. I had visions of angry neighbors and my own weary ears after her trumpet sessions. But you know what?
Ever wonder what Hollywood romances look like off screen? Many of us just eat up the provocative, juicy love scenes most stars emote on screen. We think they, or the characters they portray, have true romance all figured out. If that were the case, the divorce rate among the stars would be considerably lower.
I recently talked to a client of mine who has been online dating. She had been connecting with several very interesting men who she thought were very promising and was excited to learn more about them and to start the “Relationship Exploration” process (aka dating). The emails were going back and forth wonderfully, excitement was building… and then suddenly, they disappeared on her. All three of them. Just stopped emailing. MIA.
In last night’s Miss Advised episode titled "What's Your Type?" the three of you were finally starting to learn more about yourselves when it comes to the relationships you acquire and maintain. However, as viewers who were rooting for you, we think that it would be an understatement to say that you've all been deeply "misadvised" when it comes to your own love lives! As a love and relationship site dedicated to living your best love life, we have taken it upon ourselves to share some of our wisdom based on what the show has depicted so far.
Want to enchant your man? Look at no further than famous fiction. The original enchantresses in the legends of King Arthur forced knights to honor them with what was termed “courtly love”. Under the spell-powers of these magical goddesses, brave and fierce warriors learned to be gentlemanly and dutiful, and in return received devotion and sexual attention beyond their wildest dreams. Soon, even the most powerful of mortal men (wizards, even) were defenseless to the seductive powers of enchantresses.
This past weekend I held a two day retreat for my private one-on-one coaching ladies. It was here in NYC in a beautiful Soho Loft. In one word it was PHENOMENAL. The women came in with one view, and left with a completely transformed outlook on love. Specifically we looked at: how you are loved already; being excited to date; finding a man without it feeling like hard work; creating a closer and more powerful relationship; AND (yes there is an AND!) confidently knowing you can have the love you desire. CRAZY AHH-MAZING RIGHT?
I want to share something with you… something that’s difficult to share, yet it’s my hope and my intention that a recent revelation I had in my life may help you in some way in your life and on your journey to finding the One for you and living the life you’ve always dreamed of.
Yes, it's true that your love for Christian Grey has made you feel happier than you've ever been in your life. But it has also caused you to cry uncontrollably, lose your appetite for weeks — or devour an entire jar of cookies, drink irresponsibly, send inappropriate text messages, lay in bed for hours on end, and question everything you have come to learn about life and who you are as a person.