With new TV shows like Bravo's 'Southern Charm' and 'Online Dating Rituals of the American Male, it sure looks like most men are players — and proud to admit it. They boldly look into the camera and say how they aren't ready to commit, like to play around and have a revolving door in front of the bedroom! Dating coach Ronnie Ann Ryan explains why if you're looking for lasting love, it's time to look deeper.
I’m not a big Valentine’s Day fan. Not because I don’t like a little bit of romance, flowers, or chocolates it’s just that I don’t like the Hallmark Card, bad stuffed animal version of romance that lands on one day a year. Can’t we be romantic more frequently or at least not on the same day as everyone else? Call me the romance scrooge but I really don’t like a lot of our cultures versions of love and romance. Maybe I’m a skeptic but if Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries can’t work it out then what chance do the rest of us have?
What many may not know about Denzel Washington is that above all else, he is a dedicated family man, with a wife of almost thirty years. They even renewed their vows in South Africa in 1995 after 12 years of marriage. The family man is turning 58 on Friday!
Lemondrop's Bediquette column today discusses the comfort—and horror—of familiarity. According to a new poll, romance lasts exactly two years, six months and 25 days, after which time couples stop trying and start leaving the toilet seat up (79% of men married 10+ years do this), hording the remote (75% of both sexes wouldn't relinquish control when asked nicely) and forgetting their wedding anniversary (actually, this happens by the third year of marriage to 83% of couples).
Yesterday's New York Times Modern Love column was by Alix Kates Shulman, author of To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed. Shulman, an elderly woman, is the primary caretaker of her husband, who lost his short-term memory and his ability to function alone, when he was injured in a fall four years ago. Shulman wrote about her husband's belief that he was having an affair with his companion, Jenn. Shulman hired Jenn to care of her husband during the day—to take him on walks, to the museum, to be by his side always so he can function in the world.
Judith Newman discovers that a New Year's Eve car ride with her husband was the perfect moment to fall in love all over again. "It was New Year's eve and John and I were fighting again as we drive back to New York City. But distressing as the situation was, I was already beginning to see the humor: our kids would be dropouts at age four! John, however, did not. After a half hour of recriminations, we both descended into silence. A great way to begin the new year, I thought bitterly. And, as always happened after these marital tsunamis, I began thinking: What would my life be like if I'd married the other one?"
The May-December marriage of a young; hippie journalist and a 58-year-old district attorney shocked the couple‚Äôs friends and families. Eight elections; one Pulitzer; two kids; and almost three decades later; the age difference makes some things even sweeter.