I recently read an article on marriage that asked spouses to dismiss the idea of equality in partnership. Its author called for couples to stop tallying points, stop having power struggles and just love and honor their significant other as selflessly as possible. Well, the majority of the many comments posted about the article were surprisingly hostile—most people didn’t agree, to say the least, with the author. They felt his advice was not practical and some women readers took it as chauvinist. But I took a lot of good from its words.
Some people are good at relationships. The people they encounter are emotionally available and commitment-ready, and they sail smoothly into monogamous relationships as if on command. And then there are those who are more relationship challenged. Mystified by how to transform a Match.com profile into a boyfriend or how to meet a guy who's not a total commitmentphobe.
One of the most dangerous fears that swirls around in the minds of many women—too many women—is the fear of being man-less. The phobia of being alone and detached keeps them stocked with either an endless supply of disposable dudes or the same ol' dud who's proven himself unworthy year after year after year.
We've put together a list of the 10 must-see flicks that are sure to knock that bad mood and make you smile, laugh, or at least forget about what's bothering you for a few hours. Today is National Cheer Up the Lonely Day, and this is your one-stop shop to cheer you up.
What is it that compels us to stay in relationships that aren't good for us? There are many reasons, but more often than not, it's a combination of several motivations. The first step towards making your situation better is in understanding why you're making the choices you're making to begin with.
If you've ever been through a breakup, you know how lonely it can be on the other end of a relationship ... and sometimes, the loneliness can take a long time to overcome. In this video, Psychotherapist, Author and YourTango Expert Julie Orlov explains how to handle your post-breakup loneliness and turn it into something positive.
I am not here to say sex is right or wrong—it isn’t…right or wrong. It’s a biological function often associated with heavy breathing, sucking face, and a bleary anticipation, however repressed, of Happily Ever After… unless, of course, it’s not! Which is rare, unless you’re a pro at shutting off your feeling center. In any case, it’s precisely the After part that I am after right here and now.
Feeling lonely? Don't worry, you're not the only one, and whether you're in a romantic relationship or not, there are ways to get out of your funk and around more people. Being "Alone" Doesn’t Mean Being "Lonely" In this video, Psychotherapist, Author and YourTango Expert Julie Orlov helps a reader who's been single for a while after a tough breakup. While happy, she's also incredibly lonely and feels hopeless about meeting someone who can fill that void in her life.
The ten rules of double dating. How a guy should take dating to the next level. What would guys do if they were chicks for a day. Are shy guys actually afraid of women? Does a guy really fear ruining a relationship by making it physical? What if he's unemployed and she's got a killer job? Do men really, really hate being alone?
Neil Sedaka had it right. Breaking up IS hard to do. But WHY is it so hard? Because we are sentimental beings, desiring of connection. Because we’ve been told that ‘partnering’ is the path to happiness. Because it just feels good to have your best pal around and because there is no rule book or magic pill for getting rid of the longing. When going through a break up, we are in fact, experiencing a death. While it may just be emotional, it carries all of the hallmarks of a physical passing.
I know of a woman who so longed to be loved, held, and not feel lonely that she gave her lover, a man she hadn’t known long and knew to be a criminal, all of her life savings—some $43,000, to be exact. He promised, along with his abiding love, that he would give her back her money with interest in only two short months. When she told her friend what she had done her friend pointed out that she had a small child to feed, and reminded her she had just lost her job—and, incidentally, two other boyfriends just like this one.
Now that the family holidays of Thanksgiving and Christmas are over and we have turned our calendars to a new year, the next worldwide holiday approaching is Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day has become the number one romantic holiday in the world but what happens if you find yourself alone for this momentous occasion? How do you make it through?
The latter half of the year with all of its holiday cheer and requisite obligations can bring stress and burn out at the best of times. If you have the misfortune to be going through some of your "worst of times" during the last couple months of the year the holiday season can take on a whole new meaning. A meaning that you had never planned on getting acquainted with. Unfortunately, life does not work on our own personal desired timeline.
Christmas, Hanukkah and New Year's Eve are the perfect times to spend with friends and family. But, if you find that you're suddenly single or without a partner, how do you get through this special time of year without feeling completely alone? How Do I Survive The Holidays?!
Whether your summer breakup still stings, your fall heartbreak feels fresh, or your holiday heartache has yet to happen, one thing’s for sure. The holiday season is here and dealing with a broken heart can be especially tough during these “feel good” months. After all, there are holiday gatherings to attend, mistletoe to stand under (GASP – alone!), and happy couples cozying up to one another wherever you turn.
I remember how excited I would be if I met someone who showed some real relationship potential in the months or even weeks leading up to the holiday season. Finally! This Christmas I might actually be a part of a relationship - a couple! I might actually have someone to show up with me for the office holiday party and family Christmas gathering! Someone to exchange romantic gifts with and to snuggle with in the cold nights; to kiss under the mistletoe.