“My relationship ended, it felt bad and now I am sick because of it,” is precisely the kind of unexamined thinking and superficial generalization that spins us into imbalance in most cases.
Unlike many lucky people, your childhood was anything but idyllic. And what's worse is that past issues are stopping you from trusting others now, and being happy in your post-adolescent life. You want to put your past behind you and lead a new life. But how can you, when everything that's happened to you has made you a mistrusting, wary adult?
One of the most dangerous fears that swirls around in the minds of many women—too many women—is the fear of being man-less. The phobia of being alone and detached keeps them stocked with either an endless supply of disposable dudes or the same ol' dud who's proven himself unworthy year after year after year.
If you've ever been through a breakup, you know how lonely it can be on the other end of a relationship ... and sometimes, the loneliness can take a long time to overcome. In this video, Psychotherapist, Author and YourTango Expert Julie Orlov explains how to handle your post-breakup loneliness and turn it into something positive.
Several years ago I found myself standing in my food pantry scanning the shelves, intently looking for something. I’d had a good lunch and I was not at all hungry. What was I doing there then? For some reason that particular pantry raid stuck with me. I started thinking about what I was doing to myself with food and asking why was I doing it?
Dear Dr. Romance: Almost all of my friends have boyfriends, (we're 22, turning 23) and I don't. I never have. I feel really alone during the week because all my friends are with their boyfriends. I basically work, take classes, and that's it. I either need a boyfriend or more friends, because I'm lonely and hate it! Dear Reader: At times in life, old friends go through changes, and it's time to make new ones. If you haven't made new friends in a while, updating your definition of friendship and increasing your skills at meeting people will be worth your while.
Until 1994, if you wanted to view pornography, you had to get dressed, get in your car, drive to a seedy shop in a bad part of town and fork over hard-earned cash for an overpriced magazine ... all the while hoping not to be seen by the neighbor's teenage kid, your boss, the police or your spouse. Today, thanks to streaming video over the Internet and smart-phones, finding porn doesn't even require getting out of bed.
What is your love language? How do you feel loved? How do you know that your partner or friend values you and truly “gets you?” Do you sometimes feel you are speaking completely different languages and that there is a disconnect in what you say and do and what the other person hears and acts on? Do you know how your partner or friend feels loved? What is the language of love and do we each have our own?
A member of our website asked this question in our advice section: “I've read several of the articles on the site, but have not seen anything mentioned about "chasing" after someone who is pulling away in a relationship. That has to be a form of protection against deeper feelings, though, right? If someone is pulling away and the urge to chase after them comes up, what is the best thing to do in this situation? Thanks!”
Sometimes we give celebs too much credit and assume their lives are all glitz, glamour and money 24/7. Maybe in some cases that's true, but for the most part, it's refreshing when a big star comes out and proves they're just like the rest of us.
Did you know that your consumption of dark chocolate verses milk chocolate is in direct proportion to how loved you feel; especially, on and around Valentine’s Day? Wouldn’t that be a fabulous study to troll for why this is so? If you’re a female, when you think about your monthly cycle, and where your emotions (and hormones) are at any given day due to what’s happening at work, in your love life, with friends, and your family; and how you never seem to have enough time to be everywhere and with everyone you want to be…It isn’t t
"We can't seem to connect anymore." This is one of the most common complaints I hear in my counseling practice. We all know that it is generally easy to connect at the beginning of a relationship - before all the protections and defenses come up. But what do you do to reconnect once you feel disconnected from each other?
Neil Sedaka had it right. Breaking up IS hard to do. But WHY is it so hard? Because we are sentimental beings, desiring of connection. Because we’ve been told that ‘partnering’ is the path to happiness. Because it just feels good to have your best pal around and because there is no rule book or magic pill for getting rid of the longing. When going through a break up, we are in fact, experiencing a death. While it may just be emotional, it carries all of the hallmarks of a physical passing.
Dance on the Beach of Life! Sometimes in our lives we reach rock bottom. We experience what we call hell. For each of us it's dressed up differently, but for all of us it is dark, tough and devastating. This hell can be our awakening. Some people call it a break-down; I believe it is a break-through. This was the sequence of my hell over three months. * My second marriage failed * My business failed * My youngest daughter left me to live with her Dad * My health failed
This is a community blog post and has not been edited by YourTango's editorial staff, nor does not represent the views of YourTango or its employees. By Winston Wu, Founder of HappierAbroad.com In modern America, there is a silent nationwide epidemic that the US media is afraid to talk about because it is such a taboo issue. It is an epidemic of loneliness and datelessness among millions of American males in the USA who cannot find a marriage partner, a date, or even a quality female companion.