Learning is a process that only the learner can begin. No one can be 'taught' if there is no room in their world for new ideas.
There are some pretty consistent reasons among men why they dump their girlfriends. Let's look at what some women do to end up being single again. Of course, this doesn't fit every instance of a breakup, and this doesn't apply to every woman, but a lot of guys tend to come up with the same reasons. After all, it can't ALWAYS be something that the guys did....could it?
Nice as it is to hear about indications that the economy is turning around, the layoffs aren't over yet. You've probably just heard that yet another colleague, friend, neighbor, congregant, teammate got the ax—or you will soon. If you've been there, you know how isolating and demoralizing it can be, even now that joblessness is more norm than humiliation, more zeitgeist than badge of shame.
Billy Joel and his wife of nearly five years Katie Lee are splitting up. A "friend" of the couple told the New York Daily News that the age difference of 33 years drove the couple apart. I doubt it. Maybe, like so many couples that end up divorced, they just weren't meant to be. You never hear anyone say "Dick and Jane are the same age— that must have had something to do with their breakup." I call BS on blaming the age difference when it comes to divorce. Though, admittedly, I'm biased.
When your spouse comes home from work and tells you his boss yelled at him in front of three colleagues, do you one-up him with tales of the client who reamed you out in a meeting—and later spilled his coffee on your shirt? If this sounds familiar you may be getting sucked into "misery poker." In a new relationship-focused Wall Street Journal column called Bonds, author Elizabeth Bernstein explores the phenomenon of funereal one-upmanship: trying to outdo each other with tales of woe.
Going to couples therapy wasn’t something my boyfriend or I had to wrangle the other into. Our rough patch was more like a slick of black ice, and we were careening towards a precipitous ending. We had moved in together almost a year before, and couples therapy seemed easier than breaking up. It would at least buy us time to figure out how to split our belongings while I looked for my own place. I was scared, and didn’t know what to expect. Would she pit us against each other? Would she take my side or his? What if she liked him better than me?
Why do men never seem to listen and always want to control the remote? One man sheds light on some of the most prevalent male stereotypes and explains that while they may not be fair, sometimes they hold a kernel of truth: "For me, having control of the remote combines two impressive skills; knowledge of TV programming and quick, hand-eye coordination in the form of button pushing. Wondering if Ace of Cakes reruns are on at 8:30? I can tell you yes, they are."
If it seems like the man in your life is a total mystery, look again. Melinda Clayton reveals that the secret to talking to men is no secret. If you want to understand him, listen, be honest and don't play silly mind games: "In order to communicate effectively, you must first listen to what is being said. Although this sounds simple, it often isn't. Instead of really listening, what we often do is listen just enough to formulate our response. In other words, instead of listening, we're gearing up for battle, looking for the weakness, and planning our strategy. If you want to communicate effectively with a man, listen to what he says, and hear what he means."
Communicating with your spouse is often a tricky business that seems more like voodoo than having and honest-to-goodness chat. But really, it’s not that hard. It’s about respect, not being critical or making assumptions, and holding your tongue, says SavvyMiss.com. "That grunting, mumbling, heap of man slumped on your couch may not be Shakespeare, but he’s perfectly capable of carrying on adult conversations."It’s true; we put one of the rules—. 4: Don’t Talk Too Much—to the test and found that they actually work.