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Sticks & Stones: Could You Withstand A Verbal Attack?
Sandra Fluke radiates with confidence!

Sticks & Stones: Could You Withstand A Verbal Attack?

Lessons we can learn from the confident, graceful Sandra Fluke!

I am a life and health coach and my blogs tend to focus on fun stuff like vegetables and food labels and how to get out of your own way when you’re trying to lose weight. I never thought I’d wade into anything remotely political, but the recent events involving Georgetown law student, Sandra Fluke have provided such an important lesson, for anyone, about knowing who you are and rejecting other people’s version of you. On a much, much smaller scale, I see this in my coaching practice all the time. Fortunately, none of my clients have been called derogatory names on a national radio show! Have you ever been accused of doing something or being something that just wasn’t true?

Lessons From Whitney Houston
Trials and tribulations of the woman that made us "wanna dance with somebody!"

Lessons From Whitney Houston

Mourning Whitney Houston? Here's the reality check about what did and didn’t make her fabulous.

During these days when we as a global community mourn the loss of one of our greatest hits, it’s important for us to take a moment to realize what did and didn’t make Whitney Houston fabulous.

4 Reasons to Stop Hiding and Show Up for Your Life

4 Reasons to Stop Hiding and Show Up for Your Life

Do you have a “Tale of Woe?“ Limiting beliefs & old stories can hold you captive. Start living now.

One of my guilty pleasures on a cold winter weekend is to settle in and hold my own private classic romance movie marathon. These gut-wrenching, heart-warming tales of regret, love lost and love found, still move me to tears no matter how many times I watch them. No matter what the era, the classics usually come full circle and the boy gets the girl in the end. Love triumphs, and everyone lives happily ever after. I like happy endings. Life is meant to be full of happy endings.

Five Spiritual Lessons Learned At The Rotary

Five Spiritual Lessons Learned At The Rotary

If we're open, life gives us opportunities to learn spiritual lessons, often in unexpected places.

Close to my house, and on my way to just about every place I drive, there is a five way intersection. If you’ve ever been through a five way intersection, you know that things can get a little dicey when there are more than a couple cars at any one time. As long as everyone can count, and follows basic rules of courtesy, things can flow pretty smoothly. Introduce an uncertain or aggressive driver into the mix, however, and things can go bad very quickly!

3 Life Lessons for the Shriver Schwarzenegger Children

3 Life Lessons for the Shriver Schwarzenegger Children

Maria and Arnold can make lemonade out of this very sour lemon by using it as a teaching moment.

The greatest gift we bestow upon our children is to live an exemplary life, one they can emulate. But let’s be honest. Who among us hasn’t at one time or another done something we regret and that we hope no one will ever discover. We are all guilty of poor judgment—driving while drunk, walking out of a store without paying for a candy bar, doing illegal drugs, a seemingly innocent office flirtation that went too far, or taking an unreasonable risk. We’ve all done things that ended with our asking, “What was I thinking?”

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7 Invaluable Love Lessons From Elizabeth Taylor

Screen legend Elizabeth Taylor dies at 79, leaving behind a legacy of love.

Screen legend Elizabeth Taylor passed away on March 23 at the age of 79. The cause was congestive heart failure—which seems a little crazy to us. Throughout her rich lifetime, Liz's heart never failed her. She leaves behind an unparalleled legacy of love. She might have been known for her many marriages, but her relationships extended beyond that of a spouse. A humanitarian, friend and mother, as well, Taylor taught us time and time again about the lessons we can learn through each love and each relationship.

What I’ve Learned

What I’ve Learned

Here are some lessons I've learned from life that I'd like to share with you...

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Sex And Drugs Made Me A Man

How one man's "vices" taught him about humanity.

Everything I know about being a man I learned from women, and especially when we were stoned and in bed, f***ing and/or talking. Men approaching the AARP age, if my conversations with my brethren are at all typical, do not think this way. We're above sex now—or at least above talking about it. When we take the measure of our lives, we speak of mentors and character and hard work, and if we can stand to offer a reason to explain the good things we've got without beating the drums for our personal excellence, we may even throw in luck. Thanking the women who took us into their bodies? When I mention that, guys give me the look that says, "You're weird."

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What The Cosby Show Taught Us About Life And Love

We underestimated how much Cliff, Clair and the crew taught us about life and love.

To celebrate the 25th Anniversary of The Cosby Show, we're going to squeeze out ways in which this iconic family seared itself in our memories. Granted, this took some creative brain wrangling. We were a bit younger than Rudy throughout the Cosby's eight-season tenure, which meant for most of it, we were too little to fully appreciate the New Wave, bohemian-leanings of Denise, Baby Boom-esque, working girl stylings of Sondra, and strong, feminist undertones of Clair. But this isn't to say the residue of the family didn't linger in our psyches. While we didn't learn much about sex (The Cosby's were arguably the most wholesome family this side of the Brady's) we did take away some was universal love rules instead.