In this blog series, I’ve been talking about the experience of questioning your sexuality when you are married or in a long-term heterosexual relationship. While this is obviously not something that happens to all women at midlife, for those who are in the midst of the experience, it feels huge and all encompassing. I devoted the first article to discussing the questioning phase of coming out; in this issue I’d like to focus on what happens when you are no longer questioning – but know.
Alone, scared and confused. These words could be used to describe a lost child, but in this case, they’re not. They are the very real and daily feelings of a woman at midlife who is questioning her sexuality. For those of you who’ve been there, this may take you back to a place you’d rather not visit. For many others, it represents the beginning of a totally new and ultimately joyful journey—one of living the life you were meant to and being open and honest about yourself, maybe for the first time.
In Part 1 of this series, we addressed the question of “Why?” "Why did my “heterosexual” partner marry me when he/she knew they were gay/lesbian?" This question has been asked numerous times throughout history as many a man and woman have come out to their beloveds. The answers to this question are as varied and unique as the individuals who taken this road less traveled.
I was 12 the first time my aunt asked me over Thanksgiving dinner if I had a boyfriend yet. Twelve. I was two years away from my first "official" date, and six years away from losing my virginity on the bottom bunk of a dorm room at Keene State College. So no, Auntie Franny, I don't have a boyfriend.
Think being bisexual is a fun, carefree walk in the park? Bisexuals often feel rejected by both the straight and the LGBT community, and that feeling of not fitting in appears to be strongest with bisexual women.
For once, my teenage daughter decided to talk to me. We were driving home from school and she said, "Dad, I have something to tell you." Here it comes, I thought — either some overwrought teenage drama or a parent's worst nightmare is about to escape my precious firstborn's lips. With a quavering voice she delivered the punch: "Jackie and I are dating."
So, apparently Jenna Lyons is getting divorced from hubby Vincent Mazeau, after 10 years of marriage — and is rumored to be in a relationship with a woman.
Like most women, I have no shame in admitting that I find other females attractive. I have even admitted to being open to experimentation ("Of course I would sleep with Halle Berry! It's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity"). For women, it's perfectly acceptable to be a little bi-curious (cue every male fantasy), and according to the latest research, it's the norm.
Happy National Coming Out Day, a day when gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered people are encouraged to stand up and speak up about who they are. It's an emotionally charged day for many, but it's also a reason to celebrate.
Today, October 11, is National Coming Out Day. It's a day that should be celebrated by everyone: gay, straight, lesbian, transgender or bisexual. It's a celebration of people being honest with themselves and the people who care about them—a very honorable thing. The following 9 celebrities announced their sexual orientation the best way they knew how, and they all admit it was the best decision they've ever made. Hopefully, their experiences will inspire others today to come out from hiding. If they could do it, so can you.
When couples get divorced, there is the obvious hurt, confusion and anger. What will it be like to live alone? What will you tell the kids? Who is the other woman or man? These feelings become more complicated when your spouse falls for someone of their same sex.
Yesterday, 'The L Word' actress Leisha Hailey was kicked off a Southwest Airline flight for kissing her girlfriend, Camila Grey, an L.A.-based musician. According to Perez Hilton, the two had boarded the plane and were already in their seats when they decided to have a pre-departure kiss. The Southwest flight crew noticed, and told them that kissing each other wasn't allowed on their Airlines because their company is a "family" company. Family is often a word used to ostracize anyone who isn't heterosexual.
Controversial new movie "Circumstance" explores the lives of lesbians forced to live in the shadows. Omid Memarian talks to women in Iran who say the movie doesn’t do their predicament justice.
If you have gay male friends, you've probably heard them mention Grindr at least once, if not a thousand times. For those of you not familiar with the app, it uses GPS technology to track other gay men in your vicinity available for "meetups." According to one of my single gay friends, this app has "revolutionized his dating life." Another calls it "a slutty hookup heaven." Soon, we'll be able to draw our own conclusions. This week, the company is launching a version of the app for heteros called Project Amicus.