Personal development coach Gloria Arenson practices past-life therapy, offering her patients an opportunity to travel back in time and see the root of their current issues. Do you believe in past lives?
LEARNING FROM THE PAST
A common confession/concern that people share with me at public talks, usually talking in a hushed voice, is this, “I had the most amazing lover but for various reasons we broke up. How do I enjoy sex now after being with someone so good? I feel like the best sex of my life is behind me”. I have a lot of compassion for the yearning and nostalgia in this question. Sexual memories can be incredibly precious and they also make us want more – more of that passion, pleasure, closeness, riskiness, whatever felt magical in that moment.
Synchronicity. The title to the 1984 album by The Police or a form of mischief by the Universe to drive you crazy. The synchronicity signs began just before the summer solstice 2013. I’d see his last name everywhere. Just two weeks after I sent him the good-bye text I began seeing others with the same surname. It’s a common family name. The kind of last name that can also be a first name.
Just like we are so hard on ourselves, many of us (myself included) find it all too easy to look back at the past with so many regrets at what we could have done differently in a given situation. While we can always learn from our past experiences and determine to do something differently the next time, the harm comes in getting so caught up in that past, beating ourselves up in the process, that we forget that tomorrow truly is a new day. A day to do things differently.
My daughter is in her first year of high school and navigating the world of girl drama, boyfriends and school dances. As painful as it can be to watch her suffer through some of this, I want her to know a few things that I wish I'd known at her age.
QUESTION I've been dating a guy for a couple of months. I wonder if learning about his dating past is the best way to get a sense of his mindset at this early stage in our relationship. Should we discuss it? ANSWER When it comes to relationships, what is more relevant than the dating past of your partner is whether he is meeting your expectations for the stage of relationship you are currently in. Are you happy with (1) The way you feel when the two of you are together
Here's a hard truth; are you ready? There are parts of you that guarantee you will never get what you want most. Ever said something like, "Part of me is ready to move on from my ex, but part of me can’t stop obsessing about him or her," or “Part of me is ready for a great relationship, but part of me thinks I don't deserve it yet?” If so, it's because you actually have a lot of "Parts" inside you. Some that are designed to get you what you want most, and others that are designed to stop you from getting those things. You’ve got a myriad of Parts within you. Parts are like worker bees to your queen bee. Each Part works diligently for you, yet each one carries out a differing intention or belief of yours and thus they can be at odds with each other. This very human phenomenon is called a “Parts Conflict.”
One of my guilty pleasures on a cold winter weekend is to settle in and hold my own private classic romance movie marathon. These gut-wrenching, heart-warming tales of regret, love lost and love found, still move me to tears no matter how many times I watch them. No matter what the era, the classics usually come full circle and the boy gets the girl in the end. Love triumphs, and everyone lives happily ever after. I like happy endings. Life is meant to be full of happy endings.
There is no such thing as "stuck." As you may know, at Dating With Dignity I often talk about how we get trapped by language. But tere’s good news. Try this on for size: In truth, "stuck" is the exact, right space for me to be, because there are lessons to learned RIGHT HERE, right NOW.