At first I thought my situation was uncommon. But as I met more divorced men through my company, I was surprised to learn just how common it was. Being laid off seemed to increase the chances of getting divorced.
Couples who have experienced job losses often suffer relationship strains as existing marital tensions are exacerbated and financial stresses spark new challenges. "It tends to flare up any problems that are just under the surface," says one expert. Inside, how to weather unemployment with your spouse.
They say you’re never supposed to talk about money, but in the recession, it’s kind of hard not to. Despite a growing savings rate, there has been massive income loss and a dramatic devaluing or even obliteration of assets. For a lot of us, money is forefront and ever-present on our minds.
Nice as it is to hear about indications that the economy is turning around, the layoffs aren't over yet. You've probably just heard that yet another colleague, friend, neighbor, congregant, teammate got the ax—or you will soon. If you've been there, you know how isolating and demoralizing it can be, even now that joblessness is more norm than humiliation, more zeitgeist than badge of shame.
Talking about money with a significant other can be a painful, awkward situation—especially when you're in a dating phase. You'd think it would be easier in good times, but some are saying that the downturn has made it easier to both talk about finances and to learn about a significant other's situation. Money is top of mind for many of us and a common topic of conversation. If someone is furloughed, laid off or had a salary slashed, their relationship to money becomes more apparent.
I went out with a guy a few weeks ago. We had a really good time (I think?). We had a few drinks, then he drove me all the way home, even though I told him I could walk. The convo was great, we had a lot in common and I thought he was a cutie patootie. I don't want to be all annoying girl in "He's Just Not That Into You," but I really don't understand why he never called? Aren't all those things signs that he's interested?
Poll: Does Work Stress Affect Your Relationship?: Yes. I'm in a terrible mood after work, he hates to be around me. Sometimes. We try our best, but stress sneaks into our relationship on occasion. No. I'm able to leave my work stress at the office. Not anymore, I just got laid off!