Our expert interviews Debbie Benton, a certified midwife assistant, birthing and postpartum doula with 15 years of experience on everything you ever wondered about pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum care.
Congrats on your pregnancy, New Dad! Now, we’ve got to talk about the upcoming birth. Gone are the days where men are given the pass to wait outside in the hallway and wait for the cries of your baby as mom sweats, pushes and grunts for hours surrounded by doctors or doulas. Dad, this is your time to shine!
I'm Jodie Rodenbaugh and this is my story. It's a story that only I direct. This is my story of feeling stripped of everything I once knew. My experience left me naked and vulnerable, but through that pain, I found strength from a power much greater than myself.
They say childbirth is pretty hard, that it's not exactly a comfortable, pleasant experience for the mother. However, for some reason when we heard supermodel-mommy Miranda Kerr's childbirth tale, we ended up feeling bad for her actor-hubby, Orlando Bloom. Wonder why. According to the Daily Mail, Miranda told Conan O'Brien she was in labor for a whopping 27 hours. And where was Orlando? "I wouldn't even let him leave during it," she chuckled. "He had to pee in a bottle. He stayed there the whole time."
I like to think of myself as a strong woman, a tough cookie, if you will. Even when it comes to my marriage and my husband, I tend to play the role of Ms.Do-it-All-Handle-it-All-Without-Complaint. In this way, now that I am pregnant, it’s tough to suddenly admit that I just can’t do it. And by it, I mean a lot. This is where an unexpected benefit of childbirth classes comes in.
Oxytocin is quite a busy hormone. When released in the brain, it facilitates sex, orgasm, birth and breastfeeding, as well as feelings of bonding, connection and trust. In her forthcoming book The Chemistry of Connecton: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy and Love, author and journalist Susan Kuchinskas describes the important role oxytocin plays in our love lives and how we can train our brain to better respond to love. In other words, we weren't born knowing how to love—we learn it.
New mothers rarely boast that giving birth is as satisfying as the quickie that left them with forty extra pounds, stretch marks and–of course –a bundle of joy. However, Orgasmic Birth, Debra Pascali-Bonaro’s new documentary (completely unrelated to sadomasochism, by the way) is quickly closing the public’s perception of a nine-month gap between pleasure and pain. The film follows 11 pregnant women in their exploration of various labor options, and ultimately asserts that childbirth can be as sexually stimulating as the child’s conception–and even result in orgasm.