5 Reasons Why Warnings Backfire
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5 Reasons Why Warnings Backfire

Adults love to give kids warnings when a rule is broken and would love to believe warnings are a highly compassionate method of parenting, a reflection of our loving and kind humanity. But guess what? Warnings may be the farthest thing from true compassion. Though almost always well-intentioned, warnings will routinely backfire. Here are the main reasons why:

10 Ways to Create Parenting Miracles out of Molecules
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10 Ways to Create Parenting Miracles out of Molecules

When I was a child, it seemed like every adult in my zip code had an uncanny skill for making a “mountain out of a molehill.” In other words, of taking the smallest shred of negativity and amplifying all the tyranny and rottenness that shred of negativity may have implied. Before I go any further, let me give credit where credit is due. Exaggeration—the ability to weave a grand story out of next to nothing—is a very creative endeavor. It takes a keen eye, creative determination, and a lofty ability to wax poetic on all that is wrong.

2 Reasons Why Time-Outs Don’t Work
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2 Reasons Why Time-Outs Don’t Work

Failed time-outs can be a huge source of frustration for parents and teachers, making them question their skills and abilities, and leading to the belief that they need to escalate severity to get consequences to work. This can easily result in stronger and stronger reprimands, lectures, and even yelling, along with more and more drastic and punitive consequences. This is typically a recipe for disaster. There is a much better way. Really understanding why time-outs don’t work is the place to begin.

4 Ways to Propel Success in Challenging Children
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4 Ways to Propel Success in Challenging Children

So many kind and thoughtful parents are trying so hard to simply have a lovingly positive impact on their child, only to see the child slip further and further into the realm of being “challenging.” This is so prevalent, even among the best and brightest parents. Difficult child behavior comprises a quiet epidemic – the kind that brings so many to their knees.

Propel Your Child To Greatness With A New Approach
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Propel Your Child To Greatness With A New Approach

There is a quiet despair among so many loving, smart, and deeply caring parents. They so desire to see their children manifest their greatness, to use their intensity well instead of having it go awry, and too often they see their best efforts to inspire respectful and responsible choices slip away to further levels of frustration.

And Baby Makes Three
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And Baby Makes Three

  I used to think that if something didn’t turn out right (cake batter or laundering a stained blouse, say) the way to apply a fix was to add something.  More flour to the batter.  An applique over the stain.  I’d like to say those solutions worked, but we both know better. So why do we seek to add a BIG COMPLICATION to an already-complicated situation?  I’m not talking returning a dog to the pound because he digs under the fence.  Or changing your mind about that four grand worth of furniture.

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Rossi and JJ discuss evidence on the season 8 premiere of "Criminal Minds."
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Why My Marriage Would Make A Terrible Sitcom

Newsflash: TV doesn't depict reality and we're all disappointed. I bring up the issue because I think that there *is* an accurate depiction of marriage on TV—it's just disguised behind the blood, gore, murder and fictitious science of crime procedurals.

What I Learned From My Daughter [EXPERT]
Get ready world, my girl is coming for you!
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What I Learned From My Daughter

On Saturday May 26, 2012, my oldest daughter graduated from high school and she's off to college in the fall, leaving the nest. This summer is probably the last time she'll be living at home for the rest of her life. Sure, she'll come home over the holidays and summer break, but most of that time is spent going out with friends and catching up on the happenings in their lives. From this point forward, my baby is going to be out in the real world on her own. Am I nostalgic thinking back about the time we spent together? Heck yes. Am I sad? Yes, but excited for the adventure she is about to embark on. Am I worried? No way! Let me share with you a true story involving a little boy and a little girl that happened many years ago but still moves me to tears when I tell it.

5 Lessons Adults Should Learn From Kids
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5 Lessons Adults Should Learn From Kids

Let me ask you a couple questions. How many stressed out, unhappy, and directionless adults do you know? Now answer the same question but replace adults with kids 12 and younger. It’s a much smaller list isn’t it? I’ll bet a lot of the kids on your list are related to the adults from the first question. Coincidence? I think not.

Divorce: How Parents Can Nurture and Protect Their Kids
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Divorce: How Parents Can Nurture and Protect Their Kids

Divorce and Childrearing: How Parents Can Nurture and Protect Their Kids Most parents who are in the process of considering or pursuing divorce are deeply worried about the effects the divorce will have on their children. And the concern is justified. Divorce is one of the most difficult life events that you and your children will ever experience, according to the well validated Holmes and Rahe Stressful Life Events Scale created by the two psychiatric researchers in 1967.

How Happy is Your Kid's Bedroom?
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How Happy is Your Kid's Bedroom?

As a Mum, I am often concerned about my child's development and even though I have little influence of what is happening day to day at school, there are some things that I do have a say in and that is the home environment. One of my dearest friend's who has 3 grown children said to me recently that the only thing that she thought she was able to teach her children was manners. Yes, she is English as well, and any of you who know us Brits know that manners are really important to us. Unless of course you are watching a soccer match or rioting!

10 Parenting Secrets to Empower Kids: #7 Let Kids Think
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10 Parenting Secrets to Empower Kids: #7 Let Kids Think

Don’t teach your kids what to think… teach them how to think. The process of thinking is actually the process of asking questions. Questions do two things: 1, they stimulate responses. 2, they guide the focus of whoever is involved in those questions. So, if you’re not getting good answers (or any answers at all), ask different and better questions. How many times have your kids asked you a question from their homework? How many times have your kids asked you what to do in a particular situation? How many times have you told them the answer?

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Having Kids Chemically Bonds Couples

A recent study out of Israel suggests a man's oxytocin levels may actually be on par with their wives/girlfriends during the child rearing process. Researchers drew blood from 80 couples who were raising a six-week old baby and found identical amounts in their blood stream. As the child matured to six months, the scientists once again analyzed the levels and found the same result. It seems that a mother and father's oxytocin levels rise together while they watch their wee one grow.

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Hitting The Snooze Button On Your Biological Clock

I’m smack in the middle of my 30s and recently married. For some childless women my age, this is tick-tick-tick time. However, while other women may be intimately in touch with their ovulation cycles, I’m in no hurry to have kids now, if ever. My old man and I have talked about it, but we’re both horrified by how much our lives would have to change—not to mention how big a pain in the ass kids are for, oh, say, 18 years.