Hang out with each other, let things go, and more great tips to help you avoid divorce.
By now we've all heard the statistics a zillion times: Half of all marriages end in divorce. But when you really weigh that, it's a scary thought, right? I mean, you're not standing there at the altar, all, "yeah, if this doesn't work, I'll trade him in for a new model," are you? I wasn't. But it's a frightening reality for many. Divorce happens, and sometimes it happens to us.
Understanding your "dead spouse" is the key to bringing your relationship back to life again!
How do you "celebrate" Valentines' Day when there is that nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach that your partner somewhere back on the road of the relationship has died? One of the most difficult marriage counseling cases is the one where one of the spouses is dead. Marriages where parties are fighting are still engaging, there is still passion on some level. It is the spouse who is “dead on arrival” when it comes to relating in the marriage that brings a very challenging situation to the counseling room. If your spouse has recently suggested you look in the obituaries to find your marriage, read on for some great pointers to give you help and hope.
In the case of your marriage, curiosity may just save the cat!
Today's post will explore avoiding boredom, which can set in when we have the same old routines, same old conversations, the same old avoidance of hot topics and generally start taking each others presence for granted. Boredom opens the door to several giant killers of relationship. It can lead to affairs, and it can also throw us right over into the opposite ditch of contempt, as we begin to think we know everything about our spouse and stop actually listening to them.
Keep the sex alive in your relationship by keeping it new! Try these tips out at home.
Regardless of whether you are in a relationship or just dating at the moment, these tips are something to implement into your sex-life. Many of us forget about the little things that we loved about each other when we first met & become complacent within our relationships. This is not something to be taken lightly and nurturing the love between you & your partner should be a top priority on a daily basis.
Take some advice from The Beatles. Turn to your partner and say "I wanna hold your hand!"
Kiss your partner. Hug them. Squeeze them. Affection matters.
I was walking down the street one day when an elderly couple caught my eye. They were holding hands and still looked at each other with loving affection. The husband even stole a kiss from his "girl" as they walked into the ice cream shop. I was so drawn to the couple that I decided to stop in the ice cream shop myself. At some point, we struck up a conversation. They told me they had been married for 60 years. I asked them what their secret was. Here is what they told me.
Sometimes we get distracted by life and drift apart, here's how to keep swimming together
When relationships are not attended to regularly walls go up and intimacy goes down. Here are three of the main reasons that romance and intimacy disappear in relationships and what you can do to take charge of your relationship.
1. Secrets. Don’t think you keep secrets? What about the little fears you have about yourself or your life?
Being in love is wonderful, yet all too soon these incredible feelings begin to diminish.
When I was 24 years old I fell madly in love. I was madly in love for three weeks, and then spent the next 30 years struggling to regain and maintain that wonderful feeling. In the course of my long marriage and in the many years I've been counseling individuals and couples, I've learned what it takes to keep love alive, and what diminishes the feelings and experience of love.