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Why Women Can't Cheat (and Men Can)

Why Women Can't Cheat (and Men Can)

The John Edwards scandal shows how infidelity is easier for men.

Why is it that we so often hear about high profile men cheating, but we rarely hear about women doing so? Perhaps it's because societal structure combined with differing motivations for infidelity mean it's simply easier for men to cheat. In an MSN.com/iVillage survey of 70,000 people, taken last year, female respondents were twice as likely to use an affair to get out of a relationship. They also cheated to find a better emotional connection or to be with someone who made them feel sexy and desirable. Men, on the other hand, said they cheat for sex--more sex, better sex, variety of sex. Sex, sex, sex.

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David Petraeus was forced to step down as director of the CIA amid a cheating scandal.

Why Powerful Men Cheat

Why do powerful figures, like David Petraeus, have extramarital affairs and risk everything?

We've seen enough married political figures with upstanding reputations, adorable kids, and kick-ass wives—maybe even especially those— cheat. The thing we've yet to uncover, though, is why. We get the human nature, sex thing. A USA Today/Gallup poll conducted in March of this year — right after the Eliot Spitzer scandal broke — found that 54 percent of Americans know someone with an unfaithful spouse. We're no math whizzes, but it seems to reason that unless each of the 1,025 people polled was referring to the same couple, that means half of all relationships in the U.S. suffer from infidelity—and people talk about it. But, with so much at stake and so many falling before them, how can men in the public eye cheat on their wives—and expect to get away with it?

The Cheater's Handbook

The Cheater's Handbook

The John Edwards scandal has got us thinking about infidelity.

The big event this weekend in relationship-land was, of course, the news that John Edwards admitted to cheating on his wife. Tango knows a bit about infidelity, and some of it may surprise you!

The John Edwards Rundown

The John Edwards Rundown

Why wasn't John Edwards' affair a bigger deal?

So, John Edwards has admitted to having an extra-marital affair. Now what? It looks like he probably won't get an invite to the Democratic National Convention but is there any other fallout? Is this even a real story other than we won't have a handsome boy millionaire as the next VP?

Links We Love

Links We Love

Sex, love and relationship news from around the web.

A round up of some of our favorite links from this week in love news.

Things We Missed

Things We Missed

Sex for favors? Is Lesbian OK to say? Does John Edwards have another kid?

We missed a couple of big stories in the last couple of days: Did you know that residents of Lesbos are fed up with lesbians and took them to court? CNN wants to know if you've traded sex for favors. What's going on with John Edwards these days?

Election Or Kissing Contest?

Election Or Kissing Contest?

Match.com users think Obama's a better kisser than McCain.

Finally, someone is asking the voters the tough questions. Which candidate would you rather kiss? Overwhelmingly Match.com users would rather pucker up with Barack Obama than John McCain. The 1,433 readers, per Reuters, rated Obama higher than McCain by a 77 to 23 ratio. The article goes on to mention that the poll was not scientific, which in this case probably means that the users had to practice kissing their hands rather than stand-ins for the Senators.

The Politics of Love

There has never been a single president. And for good reason. It's a tough job and the person in power can use a good woman (or man) at his (or her) side. Tango examines the eight frontrunning candidates to find out which couple has what it takes to make it in the White House.

Inside Edwards' Marriage

Inside Edwards' Marriage

A Couple of Survivors: Elizabeth and John Edwards

In our series on the 2008 presidential couples, Tango explores the Edwards. Even if they're not always on the same page you know that the John and Elizabeth are always in each other's corner. Adversity does nothing but make them strong. Read here to find out if they have the right stuff to make the White House their next home. "On the surface, Elizabeth Edwards would seem to be the exact opposite of the ideal political spouse. Hardly meek, she's a smart and independent attorney who doesn't spend too much time worrying about her appearance, and talks openly about her struggles with weight loss. Yet she's often described as her husband's 'secret weapon.'"