The other day my husband and I were talking about cheating. His first serious girlfriend cheated on him repeatedly, so he takes a hard line approach. In his mind, if I cheated, our relationship would be over. It doesn’t matter if it was a one night stand, someone I never wanted to see again, or if it was someone I wanted a relationship with.
Everyone knows that divorce is rampant in America; what they don’t know is that many of those divorces could be avoided. Here are seven steps you can take to divorce proof your marriage. Talk more often, more openly and more honestly. Be courageous about this. It takes a willingness to be vulnerable with your partner to speak openly and honestly about your needs, but the rewards are great. You can’t expect to have your needs met by your partner if they don’t understand what you need.
I often say that if you don’t have trust in your relationship, you don’t have a relationship. The ironic thing about that statement is that trust is the biggest lesson we learn in romantic relationships. We learn to trust by experiencing its lack first, navigating our emotions and thoughts through the murky waters of mistrust. A more accurate statement might be that the pinnacle of a romantic relationship happens when we learn to deeply trust our partner and ourselves.
Pinkee here~ Everyday this week I have woken up feeling scared. That’s because I made a new commitment this week. I recommitted to jogging. So every morning, I have woken up and my first thoughts have been things like: ‘Oh, no, I have to jog. I hope I can do it. I hope I don’t sprain my ankle again. I hope I’m not too tired after doing this.’ Now, if I went on with my whole day this way, I’d probably never get out of bed. So, every day I have chosen to make a shift. I have moved from fear to its opposite, love.
In a twist on the classic fairy tale, there’s a phenomenon that happens with shocking regularity. The princess, having spent a long time in a relationship with a frog whom she kept hoping would turn out to be her prince, finally meets the Real McCoy. Prince Charming comes along and begins to woo her. Trouble is, she’s still married to the frog. What’s a princess to do?
Brace yourselves: another celebrity has admitted to having an affair. Arnold Schwarzenegger has admitted that he fathered a child with a household staffer while he and Maria Shriver were married. It happened ten years ago but was revealed this year. Maria moved out immediately, and now they’re planning to divorce.
Loving yourself is a prerequisite for co-creating a loving relationship. Pinkee here~ For those of you out there who are single, or who may be in relationship, today I am going to address the issue of loving yourself. As we have said many times on the show, it is a prerequisite for co-creating a loving relationship. In particular, I want to talk about how you can love your physical body.
Did you ever feel like you’re in the movie Groundhog Day when it comes to your romantic relationships? Although the movie is a comedy, it contains a serious message. The Bill Murray character does eventually, after dozens of failed attempts, to do some things right and get his woman. The movie is a parody of what most people go through in their relationships. In his case, it was with the same woman. For the rest of us, it’s a different person with the same personality traits.
Pinkee here~ We all have expectations in relationships. Where do they come from? They come from our earliest memories of fairy tales. The come from what we learned from our parents or other primary caregivers. They come from the media- television, movies, and advertising. In an sense, it doesn’t matter where they come from- the point is, we have them.
Pinkee here~ All of life is based on cycles. If you really think about it, it’s true. The days and nights, the growth cycle of plants, the seasons, the tides, a woman’s menstrual cycle. Women in general seem to be more in tune with the cycles of life. They tend to go with the flow, and bring themselves into harmony with what is more easily than men. No judgment here. Just stating what is. And as always, I’m talking in general. Of course there are exceptions to every rule.
How can you tell when you’re ready to start dating again after a break-up? Most people don’t even bother to ask themselves this question; they just dive back in. But if you want to avoid making the same mistakes in your next relationship, you should pay attention to these signs.
