Was that...? Seeing Someone You Know on an Online Dating Site
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Was that...? Seeing Someone You Know on an Online Dating Site

The other day I had a couple of girlfriends over. We had some wine and laughs and one of my friends pulled up her online dating account to show who had been contacting her (laughs continued). We were scrolling through one of the features where the site suggests people it thinks you may be interested in. A picture of a dark haired, blue-eyed guy that lived about 20 miles away popped up. He looked handsome, normal. But something felt weird, I said, "He looks like Wyatt's friend, the asshole one."

Am I Depressed or Just Surrounded by #%@holes?
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Am I Depressed or Just Surrounded by #%@holes?

"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes." ~ William Gibson When I saw this quote on a friend's Facebook wall I laughed out loud with delight and recognition. It hit me on a subconscious level. Why did I like it so much? I couldn't tell you. It even seemed wrong that I, a psychologist, would like the idea of blaming depression on others. And then there was the swearing bit.

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Can you tell the difference between a nice guy and a total jerk?
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2 Types Of Men You Should Always Avoid

Today's single young lady is faced with a myriad of options for her love life. Whether she lives in a big city or a rural area, she can use the internet to find countless men who are looking for everything from casual dating to long term relationships and marriage. She can go to singles events, attend events that aren't marketed as singles events but are really singles events, and even guarantee that she meets a set number of men at, say, a speed dating event.

Are Guys Jerks At Heart?
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Are Guys Jerks At Heart?

“Men aren’t a**holes. But men can be a**holes.” – Scott, 30, Healthcare Worker and WTF?! Interviewee We Millennials are good at many things (modesty not being one of them, obviously). We’re especially good at, well, being good at things that other people assume we will be good at.

12 Reasons Women Don't Date Nice Guys [EXPERT]
Do you like nice guys or bad boys?
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12 Reasons Women Don't Date Nice Guys

1. Not real. Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they're a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don't trust that. Bad boys "keep it real." Nice guys don't want to upset the apple cart. 2. Respect. No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don't set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn't let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can't respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.

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I Stopped Falling For Jerks And So Can You

I liked assholes. No, I loved them, but now, looking back, I realize it wasn't just that. For the most part, every man who failed to call me was capable of calling someone else, and at a certain point, I had to face the fact that it wasn't just them, it was me. I begged for men to be unaccountable. I allowed them to be untrustworthy. And I expected them to leave.

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Evolution Favors Bad Boys Over Nice Guys

A study says that women like their men like their coffee: dark. More accurately, the study shows that college dudes with the "dark triad" of personality traits (selfishness, lying and death-defying) sleep with more chicks. Evidently, evolution favors the kind of guy who would slime his way into your loincloth, finish" quickly and swing out of the cave on a vine. That guy has an opportunity to spread his seeds far and wide. Evidently, that's why there are so many jerks and bad boys walking around these days.