“The snow is so beautiful,” said Lila when she sat down in my office “Yes but why are you crying?” Tears streamed down her face even as she tried to smile. Many people learn to wipe away tears and smile. Sometimes it seems that the more unhappy someone was as a child, the better she learned to do that. Put on a good face, kids are told.
2013 is quickly approaching. In just a few days, it will be a new year and a new opportunity to start fresh again. Part of moving forward is letting go of the past that binds and confines you. As you begin to make resolutions and set goals, commit to removing blocks and obstacles that may have kept you from finding your plus one. For the next 30 days, follow these three tips to resolve your past and welcome your future.
By GalTime Parenting Pro, Michele Borba, Ed.D., for GalTime.com Of course, you don't want to believe it, but the evidence and the concerned teacher are right in front of you: Your well-behaved, smart, attentive child cheated. Maybe you've caught your kid in a lie, or see the signs of suspicious storytelling in one of their friends.
Do you find yourself very often inexplicably drawn to a project guy – a guy with some serious personal problems, emotional, financial, or physical, that you think you can help? Maybe it's the guy that just can't seem to hold a job, or the guy who drinks too much or has drug dependencies. The end result is that you typically find yourself in a relationship where you are caretaking for a partner, and feeling responsible for his wellbeing in one or more areas of his life. You may even be enabling his dependencies without even realizing it.
by Life Love Shopping, Amy Hoglund, for GalTime.com You’ve been dreaming of this day ever since you were a little girl playing with Barbies. I’m talking about your wedding day! You’ve got it all figured out, except there’s one problem. Your extremely difficult family who forgets that it’s YOUR special day rather than their own.
For most of us, the dreaded words, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," are devastating. They chill us to the bone and we begin to fear for our relationship. Those six words bring back past memories when we loved someone deeply, but they just wanted to be friends.
Sometimes love is blind, especially when your partners supports the opposing political party. But, even a loving relationship can combust when those contrasting viewpoints lead to conflicts.
Until 1994, if you wanted to view pornography, you had to get dressed, get in your car, drive to a seedy shop in a bad part of town and fork over hard-earned cash for an overpriced magazine ... all the while hoping not to be seen by the neighbor's teenage kid, your boss, the police or your spouse. Today, thanks to streaming video over the Internet and smart-phones, finding porn doesn't even require getting out of bed.
People ask me all the time how to have a great relationship, or if I think they are ready. I usually ask them the same two questions: What do you want and what are you willing to do about it? Then I direct them to my Relationship Aptitude Test, or RAT, which helps you smell a rat—or find out if you are one. It's multiple choice. Take your time when completing it.
Whether they are married or in long-term relationships, women clients often tell me how full of dread and frustration they are when it comes to sex with their partners. Resentment has accumulated over years, and the frustration comes from trying so hard for so long to have great sex to no avail. They want better sex ... amazing sex, but their minds are full of negativity. The dread comes from not wanting to have to face the disappointment again, so sex becomes less and less frequent. They just have sex for their partner's sake ... to keep the peace and make sure he is happy at least once a month. There is no joy in sex for these women.