December 31 may be all about the New Year’s kiss, but by New Year’s Day, most people are thinking about what comes after the kiss. This can be a good metaphor for our dating habits in general. The person we look to for instant passion, an immediate spark or even a New Year’s kiss is not always the same person we would be happy sharing our lives with long-term.
Many of us are looking to change something in our lives: Have less stress and anxiety, feel better, be happier, increase confidence, know our life path and more. Yoga and meditation are really fantastic tools to help us with these things and so much has been written on how and why they help. But if we really want to change our external world and not just our internal world, we need to take what we learn in our practice and bring it out into the world. The path to doing this is through a relationship.
The adage “It’s better to give than to receive” is applicable in more ways than one, especially when it comes to bedroom intimacy. Having a selfish significant other can be a bit of a problem when the selfishness becomes a habit. So how do you handle it? We interviewed relationship expert and psychosexual therapist Dr. Sara NasserZadeh on how to resolve. Click here to watch the video!
Hundreds of thousands, more than likely millions, of people have grown up being taught that sex is a sin. It is considered dirty and should only be done to produce new life, and even then it should be done quickly and with extreme secrecy. In some ancient societies, if a woman was raped within a town or village not only was her attacker stoned to death, but so was she!
The other day I was talking with a woman I know fairly well (let's call her Mary), and asked her what has kept her 25 year marriage going strong. Mary replied that she was a bit embarrassed to tell me this, but that she and her husband practice something they call night on-night off in which they have sex on the nights on, but not on the nights off.
It’s that time again – the trick-or-treaters swarming the streets, the leftover candy you take to the office so you don’t gain five pounds before the holidays even begin, and the piles of pumpkins at the grocery store. Fun? Yeah, maybe. Well let’s turn that around. It’s time to make Halloween all about adult playtime!
Lights on or off? Adult toy company Adam & Eve recently conducted a survey to find out. They asked 1,000 American adults (age 18 and up) how they like their lighting during sex.
A new study published in the Journal of Sex reports that the more decisions a woman makes on her own, the less likely she is to have sex.
Relationship Bootcamp Week Four “There is no other physical act at our disposal that carries the physical, emotional and spiritual benefits of making love, especially with someone you love.” -Unknown No one really understands sex, but if you are lucky, you get to spend years coming to grips with your erotic self and learning how to share and enhance the pleasure it brings. A good way to approach the topic is to think of our sexuality as an emergent rather than objective reality.
What can you do to improve the chances that couples therapy is worth the time and money you put into it? In other words, what makes marriage counseling work? Of course you need the help of a skilled marriage therapist, but there are several things you can do to help make your marriage counseling a success.
David Schnarch, PhD, founder of Crucible Therapy and author of Passionate Marriage, wrote about the two choice dilemma. I have to confess that when I read about it, I thought it was redundant. Of course a dilemma involves choosing between two things. Schnarch coined the phrase over a decade ago. He used the phrase to define what happens when you want two things to happen, but only one can actually happen.
A woman's natural lubrication can vary due to a number of factors including stress, birth control pills, other medications, and menopause. A personal lubricant will increase the lubrication making penetration and also masturbation more pleasurable, instead of painful. Utilizing a personal lubricant can also make condoms for reliable and add sensation during intercourse. Studies show that not using a personal lubricant with a condom is the number one reason why condoms do break. What Kind of Personal Lubricant Are Available?
One of the quickest and most assured routes to sexual arousal is through fantasy. We use our imaginative capacity all the time during our waking lives as we envision all the possible futures that our daily life could result in; or even in the most negative of circumstances when we allow ourselves to ruminate and over-think bad outcomes for our relationships and aspirations. Yet when it comes to the mysterious sexual fantasy life that lives somewhere in all of us we often keep the door locked.
FACT: Women do it all the time. Sitting around with their BFF’s and man watching! The cute face, the broad shoulders, the smoldering eyes and mmm, mmm, mmm the muscles! We can’t help that they conjure up naughty thoughts! But after you meet them, get to know them, and look beyond the surface, some men completely disappoint you. Why?
When I was 24 years old I fell madly in love. I was madly in love for three weeks, and then spent the next 30 years struggling to regain and maintain that wonderful feeling. In the course of my long marriage and in the many years I've been counseling individuals and couples, I've learned what it takes to keep love alive, and what diminishes the feelings and experience of love.