Susan Crain Bakos is a research sexologist, sex journalist and author. Here, she tells us how to have an orgasm while giving a guy oral sex -- a tip from her book "The New Tantra." If you're in a relationship, you probably have quid pro quo sex: You arouse him with some oral sex, he returns so you can orgasm, you shift to intercourse for his peak and finish with The Cuddle for your benefit. Give your sex life a jolt with fellatio that will rock both of your worlds (really!). It's time modern women got down on our knees for something other than a yoga class -- to really worship his penis.
Foreplay is intended to bring a couple closer together. It is intended to get us “in the mood,” to create the intimacy necessary to feel really good during intercourse. Ideally, foreplay ends when you’re both so hot and bothered that if you don’t move forward, you’ll explode. Is that how you experience it?
What role does jealousy play in relationships? When someone expresses jealousy in public, it tells me they are deeply insecure. They don’t trust their partner, and they don’t have high self-esteem. It also tells me they don’t have an identity for themselves outside of the relationship.
NPR.com published an article a few days ago titled, "Sex Without Intimacy: No Dating, No Relationships." We're all supposed to analyze whether or not stable, long-term, monogamous relationships are on the way out due to our casual college-like view of sex into adulthood.
I had to read their post a few times for it to fully sink in, and I suggest you do too if you suspect you’re in an intimacy lite situation. My intimacy lite story is probably a pretty typical one and it goes like this: I meet a boy. We have amazing chemistry, brain hormones go wild, love-at-first sight ensues, and is then harshly interrupted by reality.
A master bedrooms differ from other rooms. It is the intimate heart of a household, the retreat that replenishes body and soul, the temple that honors love. Because they have such an important role in our lives, and because we spend one-third of our lives in bed, your master bedroom should be inviting, calming and wonderful. So how do you go about creating such a sacred space? Read on to find out.
MSNBC recently explored the idea of how boredom affects divorce and while the potential may seem scary, the solution is surprisingly easy. "Shared challenges and exciting diversions are what make relationships hot long after the wedding gown has been packed up and stored away" the article states. "Boredom and a dull, daily routine, can kill a marriage, squashing intimacy and romance."
Is your sex life in a rut? Do you want to try out something new, but are unsure of how to go about doing so? Author Tracey Cox explains everything you need to know in her book, Secrets of a Supersexpert, from sex tips, miscellaneous trivia, and the psychology of falling in love.
Poll: What's Your Favorite Bedroom Food?: Sauces (chocolate syrup, strawberry sauce) Whipped Cream Fruit (grapes, cherries) No food for me, thanks.
"Sex is everywhere in The Girlfriend Experience, except there's no sex," one critic commented. "We come to understand that Soderbergh is less interested in sex work than he is in work." And so it seems The Girlfriend Experience really is a movie based upon the relationships, not the raunchy bits, of Manhattan's highest paid hookers.
Researchers from all over are doing their best to improve everyone's sex lives, and one of its major offenders—premature ejaculation—has met its match. In spray form. A scientific study involving 300 European men, all suffering from a ghastly less than a minute romp in the hay, were divided into placebo and actual groups to see if the newest concoction of PSD502 spray does in fact increase lasting time. This magical spritz contains lidocaine and prilocaine, which are elements traditionally used for dermal anesthesia and numbing the skin before getting a tattoo or laser hair removal. Participants were asked to spray their nether regions five minutes before sex and abstain from masturbating or any other kind of genital stimulation for 24 hours before each sexual encounter. The men who got the spray increased their romp time to an average of 3.8 minutes, while ironically, the placebo group finally broke a minute. Hm. Might be worth looking into what was in that "placebo" bottle.
Phone sex is popular for a myriad of reasons. Number one, it's safe. You literally talk your way to a place where you want to touch yourself. No protection needed. Phone sex can also be intensely intimate, and it can bring you and your partner together, even if you happen to be on separate coasts or in different countries.
Oxytocin is quite a busy hormone. When released in the brain, it facilitates sex, orgasm, birth and breastfeeding, as well as feelings of bonding, connection and trust. In her forthcoming book The Chemistry of Connecton: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy and Love, author and journalist Susan Kuchinskas describes the important role oxytocin plays in our love lives and how we can train our brain to better respond to love. In other words, we weren't born knowing how to love—we learn it.