“I am convinced, both by faith and experience, that to maintain one’s self on the earth is not a hardship but a pastime- if we live simply and wisely.” -Henry David Thoreau We are living in anxious times. Improvements in our economy are inconsistent and our sense of security in the systems that we have long looked to for stability feels weak and fragile. There are no quick fixes for the long-term issues that have gotten us to this point and our governmental leaders are as fractured and disconnected as ever.
Okay, so prior to reading your article, I broke all of the cardinal rules. Of course I did. But, this is what happened. My ex boyfriend and I have known each other for years, but we have been dating for a short amount of time. Within that time. I'd lied to him about a coupled things, I don't really have an excuse other than the fact that I was scared to become attatched to someone. I didn't want to end up hurt, so I always ran from te problems.
I've just recently found your page and everything you have written i could relate to and i was wondering if you could give me some advice on my situation? I have been with my boyfriend for 18 months and i can honestly say have never been so happy or found someone i have such a connection with. In January he started a new job which meant longer hours but he promised that our relationship would stay strong and it did, until he met a girl on a night out and they've kept in contact. Obviously i was hurt and jealous but he promised me they were just friends.
My boyfriend and I had dated for almost a year and a half. We lived together for four months. He broke up with me in May. He had a valid reason for breaking up with me. I was a cutter and severely depressed. I would demean him for insignificant things. I told him I hated him. I put him through hell and isolated myself. He said he couldn't handle the stress of wondering whether I would be alive when he got home or not. He said he wasn't good for me.
Summer is here, and with it comes ideas of lemonade, hammocks on the beach, the breeze blowing through your hair, sounds of the ocean and better sex. What, better sex? Yes, you need to take a break for your marriage. A vacation is good for the heart, soul and your sex life. Most of the recent polls I’ve read reinforce the fact that two thirds of all married couples report having better sex on vacation than they do at home.
Your girlfriend or wife wants to experiment with a sex toy, which is great news for you. This excites you as this brings your relationship to a whole new level. The idea of watching her masturbate, or pleasuring her with the toy is quite a turn on for you. You begin to feel aroused just thinking about it. Your girlfriend gives you the challenge of choosing one for her, but you don't know what to get. There are so many adult toys on the market, that you start to feel overwhelmed just thinking about it. What if she hates it and never wants to try one again?
Just recently my boyfriend broke up with me. I made the mistake of crying to him about it. He still talks to me though whenever i text him. He always answers back. He even answers when we talk on the phone. Throughout the relationship we never had a fight, everything is perfect. He told me that he loved me and wanted to marry me and we even went to look at rings. He is the guy that i have been waiting for my whole life and he is everything that i have ever said that i have wanted in a guy.
I had been with my boyfriend almost 2 years. He broke up with me last week saying he didn't feel like he could trust me because I still have contact with my son's father. My sons father doesnt pay support so in exchange he offered to help give me money for household bills and such when I needed. I took advantage of this only a few times, but I didnt tell my boyfriend about it. He has been extremely jealous of my sons father the entire time weve been together, almost threatened.
My fiance of 3 years broke up with me three weeks ago because he said we fought too much. The only reason we fought was usually because I wanted him to spend time with me and he just wanted to hang out with his friends. I didn't mind him hanging with them, but I occasionally wanted time alone with my fiance. Towards the latter part of the relationship he just became a bit distant, and our work hours were conflicting, so we didn't see each other but maybe an hour a day. It just took a toll on me, and we had very little intimacy, which made me feel undesired.
“I like hugs and I like kisses, but what I really love is help with the dishes!” ~Author Unknown For years the most significant and unresolved conflict that lived between my husband and I had to do with the division of labor in our home. In fact, this is one of the top mechanisms of dissatisfaction and ultimate destruction of many long-term partnerships.
The dynamics of a great kiss are multi-layered and complex “A kiss can be a comma, a question mark or an exclamation point. That’s basic spelling that every woman ought to know.” -Jeanne Bourgeois If ever there was a communication mechanism that predicted the destiny and longevity of a romantic interlude, it is the kiss. What we say with our kisses, as well as how they are received and understood is the basis for all the sexual conversations that they initiate.
The Marriage Puzzle: To Be Or Not To Be? This month I had a pleasure of being invited to a beautiful wedding. This invitation came over just a few weeks after the one of my young clients showed up in my office with a huge uncertainty about herself, her future life and most importantly, a big confusion about her previous relationship. This is what she sent me after this session:
By Susie and Otto Collins Julia is bored. She's worked at the same job for 10 years now. She's lived in the same town for almost her entire life. She's dated the same guy for 5 years. Sure, she loves her boyfriend, Dave, and she doesn't want to break up with him. But, she misses those early days of their relationship when everything was a fabulous and delightful surprise. Dave used to show up at her office and “kidnap” her for an extended lunch break that often included heavy make-out sessions in his car.
I’m seeing an epidemic of “porn addiction” in my office. Not of porn addiction, but of “porn addiction.” Here’s how it looks: Wife/girlfriend somehow assumes that husband/boyfriend does NOT watch porn (guess that’s what she means by “he’s one in a million”). One day, his porn watching comes to her attention (he leaves something on the screen, she searches his website history, he gets an email or bill from some friendly porn site, etc.). She freaks.
How you feel about losing your virginity depends… are you a guy or girl? The morning after can be difficult no matter if you are a guy or a girl, but it seems to be more difficult for girls than guys. A study from researchers at Pennsylvania State University reports male university students' body images improved after having sexual intercourse for the first time, while the opposite pattern was found with females.
“Passion is the quickest to develop and the quickest to fade. Intimacy develops more slowly, and commitment more gradually still.” — Robert Sternberg The question of whether intimacy and love-making should be spontaneous or planned is one that gets between many couples. The essence of the issue is that many believe that spontaneous combustion sex, the kind that drives the very early phases of biological pairing, is the real McCoy and that other types of planned intimacy are somehow less than.