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Decoding Dealbreakers

Decoding Dealbreakers

He’s cheap, he checks out other women, his breath smells, he won’t go down on me, he takes longer than me to get ready, he answered the phone during a movie, he lied to the host and said he was a doctor to get a table, he’s too negative, he’s too positive…. And the list goes on and on and ON! No wonder singledom is lasting well into our 30s – our dealbreaker list is longer than a line to get into a Justin Bieber concert. Now, don’t get me wrong, as you know by now, I am a champion of choosy, but in the MD lab, I’ve been wondering if perhaps we are decoding our relationship red lights improperly. Could these dealbreakers be more than meets the eye?

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5 Dating Tips From The Millionaire Matchmaker

The Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger's no-nonsense dating tips.

Jimmy D. swore up and down that he was ready for a real, deep woman (and for once, he wasn't talking about her cleavage). After a near-death experience (he was beaten and lost…an eyelid?) he was ready to find real love. Mateo swore up and down that the most important thing to him was his woman's religion; he wanted to raise a Christian family. What did both guys do at the mixer? The exact opposite of what they said!

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Modern Marriage: He's My Wusband, I'm His Hife

One newlywed couple scoffs at convention and redefines modern marriage roles.

I'd argue that, for all of my wifely qualities (I can obsess over throw pillows with the best of them), I have an inner husband who tends to drive at least double the legal speed limit and leave socks on the floor, while my actual husband— tall, handsome, manly-guy that he is — has an inner wife who lives to make sure we both have clean underwear. ??Call us Wusband and Hife? ?? These labels, at least, allow for a little overlap: A division of labor based on what we're each best at, not just what's assigned us by virtue of chromosome.?? Of course, in some ways, we resemble happy "normal" newlyweds: I like to cook. For him. My husband, on the other hand, is very able to cook—but usually he'll start the pasta sauce along with a line of questioning like: Do I add water? Should I put it in the microwave? If I add garlic, do I chop it first? Most nights I wind up manning the pan, while he happily goes back to Guitar Hero.

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Canadian Dating: Something To Talk Aboot

Do they date, mate and fall in love all that differently across the border?

So Shaun White freakin' killed it last night with his twists and turns. And, in the end, the Olympics beat out American Idol in ratings. But forget the Olympics. Just for a moment. We know what you really want to know about Canada: Is there love across the border? And, if so, what does it look like? We dove into the dating and mating habits of the exotic Canadian species (translation: talked to youngsters who've lived in British Columbia, Alberta, Ontario and Quebec) and dug up a few anthropological gems.

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Valentine's Day Traditions Around The World

How countries around the world celebrate the Valentine's Day, whether or not it's on February 14.

If there's one holiday that's become a worldwide hit, it's Valentine's Day. What can we say, love is a universal theme, but not everyone chooses to celebrate it with roses and boxes of chocolate. After doing a little research, we found plenty of traditions that we wish we could import into our own Valentine's Day practices. See, love—not Hallmark—really does make the world go 'round!

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New Marriage Trend: Men Marrying Wealthy Women

Why are men no longer the primary breadwinners?

Major gender role changes are afoot, according to a new study from the Pew Research Center. Men are increasingly marrying women who earn more money or education than them. The numbers say it all: In 1970, 4% of wives earned more than their husbands; in 2007, 22% did. Good job ladies! Let's examine what has caused this shift in gender dynamics.

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YourTango Talks With Matthew Goode

The actor talks about his preference for East Coast ladies and the one white lie he tells his wife.

English actor Matthew Goode has skimmed the surface of that coveted Household Name status since he played Mandy Moore's strapping British love interest in 2004's "Chasing Liberty." He's since racked up some steady work—"Match Point," "Watchmen"—and most recently co-starred in Tom Ford's directorial debut, "A Single Man." Next up is the romantic comedy "Leap Year," which centers around an American woman, Anna (Amy Adams), set to propose to her boyfriend in Ireland. We chatted with Goode about how he prefers East Coast ladies and the one white lie he tells his wife.

4 Things Happy Couples Know

4 Things Happy Couples Know

For 2010, getting finances under control and in sync is crucial for a lasting, happy relationship.

The 2009 report on the national state of marriage in America is out from the National Marriage Project. Check out tips from the country's leading marriage academics. Hint: none of them involves cleaning the kitchen in stilettos!

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5 Countries Where Skinny Isn't Sexy

Body issues and beauty standards from around the globe may surprise you.

Thanks to fashion magazines, fast food and size-0 actresses, American women live in a crazy funhouse mirror -- the more the obesity rate rises, it seems, the tinier and more unrealistic our idealized standards of beauty become. But is it that way all over the world? Globally, for most women, what determines beauty comes from more meaningful influences than Cosmo. We asked her to tell us about five countries who don't idealize the Keira Knightley physique -- though they each have their own set of body issues.