Turns out love isn’t one, but five, languages. And the one you speak might be different from the one your partner does. The key to a happy relationship? Becoming fluent in both and express affection in a way that your partner can appreciate. Dr. Gary Chapman solves a few conundrums for us and shows couples that getting what you want is often just a matter of communication.
From The Houston Chronicle By Alexis Grant Women who date online are likely to take precautions to protect their personal safety when first meeting a man face-to-face, but often are much less careful about protecting their sexual health once that encounter moves to the next level, a Houston-based study has found. While the women who were surveyed went to great lengths to screen online acquaintances before meeting them, nearly a third reported having sex on the first date and three-quarters of those said they did not use condoms, according to the study by The University of Texas School of Public Health. Those behaviors reflect a "virtual intimacy" the women developed with men online before meeting them in person, said the study's author, Paige Padgett. Tango’s Take
A woman proposing to a man? "Well, it is a new millennium." Jeanann Pannasch recounts her tale of talking her husband out of marriage and then regretting it. The next several months were spent trying to figure out how to get him in the mood for marriage and it dawned on her that if this relationship was going to have a wedding then she was going to have to get aggressive. But circumstances and nervousness kept delaying the event. Finally, she gave him the engagement ring but the proposal did not go exactly as planned.
Too many couples have mediocre sex; and too few understand why. The first step is defining what bad sex is for you. And it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with orgasms. The next step is figuring out what's making it boring or unfulfilling and communicating that to your partner. But a little communication and sexual exploration can prevent it from being a total dealbreaker.
According to the CDC; about 90 percent of men and women have had oral sex at some point in their lives‚ but that doesn't mean they continue to have it regularly, or even that they liked it in the first place. The reasons why some folks aren't up on going down are a Freudian analyst's wet dream: People fear it's unhygienic. Or they dislike the taste. Or they worry their technique is bad. Or they simply find the idea of faces being in places swimsuits cover to be generally unpleasant.
Have you ever wondered what happens when readers follow an advice columnist's sex tips to a T? In this piece, read tongue in cheek letters to the fictional "American Vixen" magazine and see how the (imaginary) readers handled advice on how to deal with a poor body image.
It’s the thought that counts, right? But what were you thinking when you gave that gift—and what does it say about the bigger picture of your relationship? Whether getting a gift for a guy or purchasing a present for girl, a gift can symbolize a feeling or express a value, but they carry a lot of weight, financially and emotionally. Martha Baer cites some examples in this essay about the connotations of giving gifts. She writes, "in one study of more than 100 gift recipients, only 42 percent reported 'positive emotional experiences,' while 58 percent reported the opposite. Plenty of gifts simply confirm an already detectable distance. Givers reveal their ignorance and thoughtlessness all the time; every item of clothing you never even hung up is proof of that. And how many times has a present you didn’t anticipate left you feeling burdened?"
For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: fatherhood responsibilities. Question: As I lie here at 3:42 a.m. thinking about my breastfeeding wife down the hall losing sleep, I wonder: Do I have any real responsibility to help my crying baby at night when human physiology has not yet provided me with the ability to breastfeed? – R.M., Reno, Nev.