Before you start calling up wedding coordinators and venues, before you start looking for a dress and picking out a cake, put away your emotions long enough to ask yourself a few questions.
3 Signs You’re in an Unhealthy Infatuation vs a Healthy Connection
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Over Christmas this year, I made a middle school dream come true. No, I didn't finally find that new 15-speed bicycle or belatedly get accepted into all-state band. It was so much better and something to enjoy at any age: I hooked up with my friend's older brother.
Therese Brochard, an author and blogger who focuses on overcoming depression, recently submitted a piece to Huffington Post titled, 12 Ways To Recover From An Emotional Affair. While Brochard's intention was to help happily married folks get over their crushes, we found the tips would work on just about any unrequited infatuation. After all, we all know the cruel trick our psyche plays once we realize the object of our affection doesn't feel the same way: we just fall harder. So while we're huge proponents of following our heart, here's a crash course in outsmarting the romance novel in your head with our favorite five of Brochard's tips. 1.) Schedule your obsessing. 2.) Replace your crush with something else. 3.) Admit you're lonely. 4.) It's all in your head. 5.) Write it out.
When we start to crush, why do our appetites vanish? And why is four hours of sleep just fine? Limerence, coined in the 1970s by Dorothy Tennov is the rose-colored lenses part of a relationship, where dopamine skyrockets, similar to being on cocaine. study in Italy also proved that being in love raises women's testosterone levels and lowers a man's. If we're lucky, our crush then flattens into a nice, comfortable groove of commitment. While not as exciting as the roller coaster first stage, the feeling of comfortable companionship is also dominated by hormones. While bonding oxytocin, the brains trusting maternal hormone, is released. Oxytocin makes us crave spooning, breakfast bed, and maybe even marriage, pets and children.
