<< PREVIOUS EPISODE Liz Tuccillo, Sex and the City writer and co-author of He's Just Not That Into You, concludes that Indian women have the best of all worlds when it comes to looking for love. They can go the traditional route and seek an arranged marriage, they can date and look for a love marriage, or they can opt for total freedom and remain unmarried.
Liz Tuccillo, Sex and the City writer and co-author of He's Just Not That Into You, discovers that some women and men are opting out of arranged marriage and working, dating and holding out for love. They tell Liz, "We've met the cautionary tales, and they're married."
Liz Tuccillo, writer for Sex and the City and co-author of He's Just Not That Into You, asks why is the divorce rate so low in India? She finds out that Indians are taught that happiness is a state of mind. And if you've had an arranged marriage you wed first, and learn to love your husband over time, as you get to know him.
If you're like us, you've wondered from time to time how this or that guy's tongue ended up in your mouth. And no, we're not talking about how a certain Air Supply song and a specific number of drinks led you to do something that you might feel compelled to deny the next day. Rather, we've wondered how the whole practice of kissing came about in the first place. Fortunately for us, the geniuses over at Discovery have made a very short video entitled the Skinny on Smooching, which attempts to lay out the history of kissing, and how it evolved.
On Monday in the Jajpur district, a toddler was wedded in holy matrimony with a caramel-colored lady pooch. The marriage ceremony was traditional. There was a feast and priests chanted Sankrit prayers and hymns. The whole nine yards. While we're sure dog and boy will care for each other in sickness and health, until death do they part and all that good stuff, the union wasn't a pairing of passion and true love. Shocking, we know. Rather the arranged marriage took place to help ward off "evil spirits and bad luck" in the "tribal dominated" Patarpur village. Apparently, it is considered a good omen to marry a dog. The boy's family hopes the act may in effect reverse a tooth defect ailing the kid. Children getting married to dogs is actually a pretty popular practice in order to ward off and protect them from evil spirits and ghosts.
Being a runaway bride has nothing on a Japanese groom's tactic for avoiding his nuptials: setting fire to the hotel where he was meant to marry later in the day. Reuters reports that the 39-year-old groom, Tatsuhiko Kawata, told police he set fire to the hotel so he "wouldn't have to go through with the wedding." In an even juicier turn of events, Kawata is already married!
After mining the dating scene for laughs as a writer for Sex and the City, Liz Tuccillo moved on to co-authoring the best-selling book, He's Just Not That Into You. When it came time to work on her next project, the novel How To Be Single, Liz traveled the world to find out what single life was like in other countries.
Why has no one thought of this before? A man, Sanjib Saha, in Kolkata, India (formerly Calcutta like Mumbai was once Bombay) has been charged with some legal shenanigans after using an impersonator to represent his wife in their divorce case according to Reuters. The real wife was then thrown out of her home and was more than a touch confused.
But I have to say, based on what I’ve heard from other cultures, arranged marriages seem to work for some. Take this CNN article on arranged marriages going high-tech. I had planned to write about the trend, but I was more impressed with the insight the article provided.
In the endless search for the ultimate online dating site (tough job, huh?), we came dangerously close to perfection with BharatMatrimony.com. The Financial Times profiled the site this week, offering a favorable review—and we couldn’t agree more. Now, this is a niche site, dedicated to Indian match-matching (sorry, rest of the world), but it should serve as a model for other dating sites. (And brick-and-mortars: The company has more than 100 walk-in centers for those who aren’t so computer-savvy.)