Maria Shriver recently asked a question on YouTube: What are three things you wished you’d known during your last transition? As she navigates her newly announced separation from Arnold Schwarzenegger, here are the three things I think will be most helpful to her... and things I wished I’d known during my own separation. Arnold Schwarzenegger & Maria Shriver Split After 25 Years
How can you tell when you’re ready to start dating again after a break-up? Most people don’t even bother to ask themselves this question; they just dive back in. But if you want to avoid making the same mistakes in your next relationship, you should pay attention to these signs.
“Is it just a natural part of getting older together that our sex life is going the way of the Dodo?” asked Brenda and Simon. “We really care for each other, but on the rare times it happens, sex is pretty dull.” Tammy Nelson made quite a stir in 2008 with her book Getting the Sex You Want in which she applied Imago Relationship Therapy to restoring the love lives of couples like Simon and Brenda.
John only had a short affair. And it was a long time ago. Years later the truth came to light and his marriage to Maryanne hit the critical list. Maryanne didn’t want the marriage to end. But how could she ever again trust John? John desperately wanted to be forgiven for the past, and find a way for the marriage to continue.
“O what a heaven is love! O what a hell!” said the 17th century poet, Thomas Dekker. Does love ever feel like that to you? Given that 50% of marriages end in divorce, and all sorts of other grim statistics, I guess there’s a good chance that your answer is “Yes.” But do you know why? Why should love have its dark side – other than to create a large market for romantic movies, paper handkerchiefs and voodoo dolls?
Soulmates who are romantic partners have a special role in our lives. They have agreed to help us heal our childhood wounds. They have agreed to show us the blueprint for the cage we’ve built, so that we can find the tools necessary to escape.
Just imagine your marriage has gone horribly wrong. You want a divorce. But to get one you have to sit through hours of counseling with the partner you love to hate. Welcome to Wyoming, at least if Ed Buchanan has his way. Buchanan is putting a new bill through the state legislature of Wyoming. If passed, it would require couples in that state attempting to get married or divorced to go through counseling together—and have to pay for it themselves.
Lila here~ A few weeks ago, my friend Adam blogged about the 3 P’s of relationships from an Imago Relationship Therapy standpoint. The 3 P’s are: Pick, Provoke and Project. First you pick a partner who reflects the positive and negative traits of your caregivers when you were a child. We call this your imago match. Then you provoke those traits to come forth. At first you provoke the positive traits, but after the honeymoon phase of the relationship is over, you provoke the negative traits to come out. Then you (I say you, but we all do it) project those traits onto your partner, whether they actually have them or not. If you’ve ever thought or said, “you’re just like my father (or mother)” then you know what projection is.
A few weeks ago, my friend Adam Sheck blogged about the 3 P’s of relationships from an Imago Relationship Therapy standpoint. The 3 P’s are: Pick, Provoke and Project. It occurred to me that there are two more P’s possible for couples who want to move into a conscious relationship.
Last week I wrote about speaking authentically. How on earth is a person supposed to remember to speak authentically when they’re in the middle of an argument? Well, that’s the time it’s the most important, so the more you practice when you’re not arguing, the better you’ll be.
The lovers we choose are often similar to our parents. Here's why.
