Affairs are very difficult for many spouses to handle. They wonder how their partner could hurt them and how they will recover from this betrayal. However, is it possible that an affair is justified? Dr. Tammy Nelson presents a case where that may just be so.
It can be very difficult to support someone with a terminal illness. Here are some tips to help you help someone you love through this difficult situation.
My heart goes out to the victims and families of those who died during this most recent senseless tragedy at the Sandy Hook Elementary School. Being a parent and professional counselor myself, I felt a guttural pain imagining how I would feel if my child had been shot. My grief can only be a miniscule fraction of what the parents whose children were shot are feeling. My hope is that we respond to all of the victims with compassion and caring.
Here’s a news flash: stress can make you sick. Maybe you haven’t gotten the message that stress can have a permanent effect on chronic illness. Clouds your thinking, screws up your judgment. Gives you the weepies and the angries. Can take away your will to vacuum the house or cook a meal. The effects of stress on the mood and memory components of your brain can get screwed up or even shut down.
I used to think that if something didn’t turn out right (cake batter or laundering a stained blouse, say) the way to apply a fix was to add something. More flour to the batter. An applique over the stain. I’d like to say those solutions worked, but we both know better. So why do we seek to add a BIG COMPLICATION to an already-complicated situation? I’m not talking returning a dog to the pound because he digs under the fence. Or changing your mind about that four grand worth of furniture.
I stood on the swim platform at the stern of the Sea Satin, a 36-foot Dutch Steel ocean cruiser, shivering, teeth chattering with the frigid 60° F water of the English Channel lapping over my feet and ankles. I was wearing only my navy blue speedo swim suit, white silicone cap and green tinted goggles.
With the obesity epidemic in this country, it should be no surprise when that the next person you go out with may not be the perfect picture of health. But would a health issue stop you from dating someone? Most people on the dating scene say yes.
ILLNESS Situations and Lessons No. 8 Gina’s long standing illness has become a source of tension for all her family. She has been ill for many years and this is taking its toll on her husband Sam and the children. At times they feel she is using her illness to get attention and to force them into doing things for her. This upsets them and makes them aggressive and critical toward her.
I was diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome when I was 25, which when they told me this it could have been spoken to me in sign language or any other language. It made no sense to me and I had no clue what that disease was. After I left Cincinnati Children's Hospital, which is an hour and a half away from my hometown in Columbus. I went home and I didn't even bother to look it up online to see what it meant.
I can just see it coming. Imagine sitting home watching television one day in the near future. In a commercial, you see a child go into his bedroom, lock the door, turn on his computer, and unbutton his pants. Just then, the camera cuts away to reveal a bunch of facts and figures telling us why pornography is now the latest life-crippling disease.
We've all worried — some of us more seriously than others — if we're going to die alone. In the movie 50/50, it's not really a joke.
“It takes a really big man to love a really big scar.” –Carly Simon I worked for nine years in Lubbock, Texas as an intimacy and sex counselor for cancer patients. They taught me more than any textbook or class. I celebrated their success with them, prayed for their healing with them, and sat by their bedside with their loved one when they took their last breaths. Many people would call that a depressing job, but I never lived as fully as when I worked with this population.
When we're sick, we struggle with how to manage childcare. Debates over who is more sick or who is more in need of rest more rage between us. When you're sick and also have to care for a baby, how do you manage to get well and keep your child safe without ending your marriage?
The medical community has long debated the extent to which the power of touch, even the power of presence, can help someone recover. They've noted that in Gabrielle Giffords' case, the consistent support of her love ones has ostensibly contributed to her consistent progression toward recovery. It's difficult to measure how much love, interaction, and encouragement is needed to summon someone from the brink of death. There isn't a standard dosage of emotional support required for countering physical injuries and health problems. People can't even handle medication the same way, let alone subjective experiences like love and familiarity. At the same time, countless studies have shown that love and intimacy can improve your health. Here's how.
You don't necessarily buy into the theory that men are not nurturing, and that they act like little toddlers when they are sick but expect the exact opposite of their wives. He's a good man, and will do almost anything he's asked. But then, that's it. The asking part.
Every year, 200,000 women are diagnosed with breast cancer, and new reports have shown that the vast majority of survivors hesitate to discuss the sex problems caused by treatment. According to the Journal of Sexual medicine, seven out of ten survivors report difficulty having sex after cancer. In light of these findings, doctors interviewed by CNN are encouraging patients to express their concerns instead of hiding them.