I LOVE YOU
Women have always been thought of as the ones more focused on relationships, but new research suggests that the roles may actually now be reversed. In a study conducted by the dating site ItsJustLunch.com, 47 percent of men wondered whether there was relationship potential after the first date. In contrast, 50 percent of the women surveyed thought only about whether they wanted to see the man again after going out with him once.
According to researchers at M.I.T. (fancy!) men are the first to say "I love you" in a relationship 61% of the time, but are happier when the woman beats them to the punch. The research also suggests that a man considers saying those three little words a full 6 weeks earlier than the woman does. Hmm. Can how soon a many says he loves you determine if he just wants to get in your pants? The study also finds that men starting thinking about saying "I love you" 97 days, or about three and a half months, into a relationship. That time frame seems about right to me. It takes a while to get to know someone and fall in love, and after 90 days you probably have a good idea about your feelings. So if a guy tells a girl earlier than that 97 day mark, what are his intentions? Sex, of course.
How long is too long to wait for those three special words? In a relationship, there is no set timeframe for when it's appropriate to declare your love for each other (Trust me, I have tried to find it on Yahoo Answers forums). If you're seeking answers about when he should say it, you'll unfortunately find that every Yahoo answerer and every friend has a different answer for you.
Sure, Valentine's Day has passed and the Hallmark cards and heart-shaped balloons are now in the half-off bin, but if you're in a relationship, there's no reason to slack off on showing you care the other 364 days of the year. Still, saying "I love you" doesn't always come easy or convey the depth of feeling as much as simple actions do. After the jump, 34 ways to tell her "I love you" without actually saying it. (And gals, plenty of these can apply in reverse!)
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According to a recent study, it takes the average guy seven months to say the three magic words ("I love you") and the average female takes eight months to say the same thing. While you could both say it at the same time, in real life someone has to take off his/her clothes first…and that person is almost always me.
All relationships need a little pick-me-up sometimes—even the best ones. To that end, YourTango has compiled a list of 101 ways to reconnect with your significant other, right now. Whether you'd like to increase intimacy, find a thoughtful way to say "I love you," or just show your honey some gratitude, we're sure you'll find something useful in the list below.
The Frisky recently posted a list of ways to say "I love you" without using the "L" word. Our favorites are number 2: Stock your fridge with his favorite beer; number 3: Carve his name into a tree; and number 14: Let him see you cry. Check out the full list here. In addition to the above we'd like to add our own.
Poll: When Do You Say I Love You? : Whenever it pops out of your mouth! Wait until he says it first. Make sure the moment is right, and then tell him.