Should a woman take her husband's last name? What about him taking her name? How many syllables are appropriate for a hyphenation? Also, what to do if you are on vacation during a military coup. Watch On The Couch for real-life opinions on the name game.
Aaron was tall, handsome, brilliant, funny—everything I wanted in a lover except reckless. Indeed, the kinkiest thing about him was his luxuriant Jewish boy's 'fro; I loved to run my fingers through his curls. He was raised to be a suburban gentleman in the conservative 1950's and went to college in the liberated 70's—which may explain why he wasn't bitch-slapping me while pretending he was a pimp and I was his hooker, or playing the principal punishing the naughty schoolgirl sent to his office, or acting like a kidnapper tying up his naked, quivering victim. Instead, he put his ardor into his work while making sweet, calm, comfortable love to his wife once every week or two. Or three. Okay, a few years into our marriage, we sometimes went an entire month without even a quickie.
"What kind of woman has boobs like that?" I remember wondering as I stared at a detailed breastfeeding diagram in a thick baby care book during the early stages of pregnancy with my first child. The woman's breast sloped and sagged into a shape resembling a popped balloon. The deflated boobs looked nothing like my small, perky breasts.
Anyone who has been at a bar when it closes at 2am is familiar with the tendency of otherwise "straight" women to suddenly become "flexo-sexual" for the amusement of onlooking men. Obviously in this territory, stereotypes and double standards are plentiful, but when the shot glasses get put back on the shelf, what is the truth about bi-curious feelings?
My son graduated last weekend. Up to the actual day of the ceremony, I was doing a dang good job of ignoring/avoiding what was coming up. That my first born will be leaving soon. That this chapter is now closed: the one where he grows up with me there to guide him. That I’m old enough to have a son who is graduating from high school. I wasn’t thinking about any of this.
Turns out, it's a three YEAR process.Every year, hundreds of thousands of women take their new husband's names. Not to say the process has become seamless, but it’s less time consuming or involved than filing your taxes. But what if a guy wants to take his wife's name? Common sense says it should be just as easy—but guess again. According to WTLX.com, Michael Buday and Diana Bijon decided to just that, and it took a mere three years to make it official. With the divorce rate as is, it's amazing the couple was still married by the time the paperwork came through...
Just when you think you've deep-sixed one seriously depraved New York politician, accusations arise that another was not only secretly gay, but, oh by the way, he and his wife were having threesomes with his driver long before he ever came out. (Not that that in itself is necessarily depraved.) Hmm. Like we said, love rarely resembles a 50's sitcom. And we don't pretend to know what Silda should do with her Eliot, which is why we put the question to you:
I should have known. When you're 30 years old, like we are, and when you've been married three years, like we have, everything becomes about having a baby. No matter what we're talking about—our jobs, our friends, an upcoming vacation—reproduction is always just a free association away. It has even infiltrated our sex life: Yesterday, Emily confessed that her dirty thoughts about me now trigger a fantasy of me knocking her up.We both want a baby. If only we could agree on when. Jay Rosenshield writes about being a married man who's not ready to have a child.
From The Sydney Morning Herald By Adele Horin MEN in search of true happiness should steer clear of bimbos and dumb blondes: research shows men are happiest if they marry smart women. Every extra year of education a wife has under her belt significantly increases the chances her husband will report being highly satisfied with life. But Shane Mathew Worner, of the Australian National University's economics program, says it may be that an educated woman's earning power is her biggest asset. In a paper to be presented at the HILDA Survey Research conference this week, he says "the higher the education level of the wife, the happier the husband is." The study is based on a sample of more than 5000 Australians drawn from the Household, Income and Labour Dynamics in Australia survey.
Most people associate celebrity with SUVs, Manolo Blahniks, and Malibu beach homes. But not Alicia Silverstone. The actress, 30, has chosen to parlay her fame into a life of activism. She has aligned herself with organizations such as PETA—which named her the sexiest vegetarian alive—and the Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine, which encourages humane alternatives to animal testing. Along with her new husband, Silverstone has embraced an eco-friendly life—proving that when the political gets personal, love can only get better. Here, she weighs in on their first date, activism and favorite body parts.
"He wasn't my type. We worked together, and he kept asking me to do things with him, in a collegial sort of way. But when my friends asked if he might be a romantic possibility, I assured them that he wasn’t my type at all. I had always been attracted to powerful older men—the kind who charm the pants off every woman they meet. You can imagine how well this worked out for me." He just wasn't her type; but she married him anyway. Upon their first meeting, Leslie Bennetts was convinced that her husband of 18 years was totally wrong for her. Years later, she marvels at how little she knew back then. Turns out, he was the one.
"Bruce would not want us to wallow in our grief, and I always hear him … His voice is always there saying, 'Get on with it.' There was a saying that I loved, and that he loved, by Robert Frost: 'In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.'" Actress Blythe Danner publicly discusses the loss of her husband Bruce for the first time.