Healthy communication is essential to any relationship, as being emotionally closed will only exacerbate issues. This couples counselor explains why it is so detrimental to the stability of your love life.
Is anger dangerous? Is it a “bad” emotion? Anger is at the center of many problems in relationships. Anger itself is really not the source of the problem. Anger is a normal, healthy, necessary emotion that protects us from being hurt by others. It’s how we express it- or, just as importantly, fail to express it- that causes problems with the people in our lives. Problems in relationships at home, at work, with our children our loved ones, friends or even strangers can arise from an ineffective expression
For two years, Kora had been having an on and off affair with her high-school sweetheart, a separated man who lived over a thousand miles away. It ended when Sean, her husband, had discovered some letters in her desk drawer. Because Kora and her lover lived so far apart it was easy for Sean to validate Kora’s claims that the affair ended. Moreover, her lover had reunited with his wife and family.
Forgiveness is a very tricky subject. Trust is breached and we don't know if we can trust this person again. When is the appropriate situation to forgive someone? Do you technically have the right to "forgive" someone? Read on as our expert gives three situations and what to do during them.
Setting boundaries in relationships can be difficult for adults.Understanding what teasing is fun and which is hurtful is hard for everyone. It is even more difficult for children to comphrend. One of the main goals of a child is to fit in and be well liked by their peers. Sometimes a message the child is receiving can have a barbed edge or be a subtle put-down by what your child believes is a friend. What is Teasing
Believe it or not, Thanksgiving is a time that can actually help you heal from divorce, and here are five reasons why.
Drum roll, please! Here’s my TOP TEN LIST OF BEST-DOWN-IN-THE-DUMPS-ABOUT-LOVE songs. 1. I’m So Lonesome I Could Cry - Hank Williams 2. Love Hurts – Roy Orbison 3. She’s Out of My Life – Michael Jackson 4. In My Life – The Beatles 5. Unbreak My Heart – Toni Braxton 6. Even Now – Barry Manilow
Today was hot and sunny, and remembering the pain of that burn, I wondered, can we have emotional sunburns, too? That is, pain from hurt feelings, anger and misunderstanding that has rubbed us so raw we're chafing. I do believe I have witnessed emotional sunburn, even suffered from it myself on occasion. Here are five questions you can ask yourself to see if you experienced it as well.
Do you think all single men are the same? Many women who are dating after a divorce (or any time) don't respect men. They don't value, like or appreciate men. You can tell by how they speak about men ... and it's understandable. Divorce is very hard, and many women have been hurt, disappointed, cheated on, controlled and/or lied to. Yet, these are the same women who are dating after divorce and want to find a loving man as a romantic partner.
Do you find that you have a pattern of trying to hide your negative feelings from a man who isn't treating you the way you wish he would? When we women love a man and feel that his feelings for us are not as strong as ours are, we feel A LOT of intense, scary feelings, most of which are negative. We are bitter, sad, scared, anxious and even angry. We also feel like we have to hold these feelings inside. We feel we have to stuff them down, keep them under wraps, so that our man doesn’t get turned off by our draining emotions.
Can Trust be 100% Restored after Infidelity? Trust is such a hard thing to gain, and such an easy thing to lose. Trust is the key ingredient in any relationship. Trust is love Trust and unconditional love go hand in hand
Being cheated on is the most painful experience a person can ever have. It can hurt you very deeply. No medication, not even the strongest painkillers, can take away this kind of pain after infidelity. Your partner is asking for forgiveness. He or she has shown genuine remorse for the things that have happened. Your partner is sorry for the hurt that he or she has caused you and is asking for a second chance.
One question that we all struggle with at some point in our lives is what to do when we get hurt by another person. Whether it's a parent, spouse, child, or friend, we all need to find an answer to the question of what to do with the experience. Depending on your personality, you might respond more with anger or more with sadness, but the truth is, we all get hurt by others and need to find a way to deal with this. But what does that look like? What if the other is unapologetic, incapable, or no longer around? How do you best “move on”?
"My wife is so upset that I have to travel more on my new job," Chuck told me in our phone counseling session. "She feels so alone and lost when I'm gone. When I talk with her she is either crying or angry. I feel so badly and guilty but I don't know what to do." "Do you feel responsibility for her feelings?" I asked him. "Do you feel that you are the cause of her feelings?" "Yes."
Hurt feelings. Or rather a life without hurt feelings is the holy grail of relationship prospecting. At least that is true with the women who work with me. Each type, Scarlett, Snow White and Rapunzel are shocked to discover they have aligned themselves with that belief. There is a flawed premise hiding under every love sabotage habit.
Dear Readers, Due to an overwhelming response with emails after my article/blog “Sleeping with the Enemy,” I decided to write in a different format. I received 183 letters from people all over the U.S. (the article was posted in Chicago as well as the East Coast), and I found myself feeling limited and unhelpful with my template, explaining I was not authorized to give out individual advice. I decided to take a letter from one of my readers, change the names, and post it here for all of you.