Find out whether you are a relationship failure and if so what to do about it!
Last week I was reminded of what a lot of women feel like when they are the ones who are dumped by their ex. One of the ladies who came to my Meet Up Group said to me that she felt like a failure because her relationship hadn’t worked out. What is interesting about this is that this is not something uncommon. I often see this statement rearing its ugly head, making sure that it keeps them small and hurting.
Infidelity, rumored break-up, the "Big D" announcement ... thankful for what?
It seems that celebrity break-ups are as frequent as my protein bar and drink regime ordered by my doctor to help me lose weight. I'm now up to 3 protein drinks a day, plus 3 protein bars, and then a 500 calorie protein rich dinner with plenty of fresh vegetables. So that would be approximately 7 regular protein boosts a day, which is actually less frequent, it seems, than the daily announcements that some fab celebrity couple is calling it quits! The latest casualty: Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher.
Starting to realize the Prince Charming you met online is a dud? Here are tips on how to end things.
You've been on a few dates and you think you met the man (or woman) of your dreams. The first meet was electric; the energy between you was sizzling. The second date was nice, too; you had plenty to talk about and the chemistry was obviously there. The third date you kissed a little, and that's when things began going downhill.
Read these five strategies for increasing your chances of surviving and thriving after breaking up.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S
Maybe he was a cheater or porn addict. Maybe she never could get over that other boyfriend or worse, was still seeing him. Whatever the reason – ending a relationship where you have become close and attached to each other – is going to hurt.
It's not only lovers--sometimes you need to break up with friends, too.
When it comes to friends, there's bound to be a few bad apples in the bunch. For whatever reason -- maybe they're overly critical, perpetually depressed or just plain annoying -- you can't stand to be around them. Yet rather than keeping them in your life, consider giving them the heave-ho or you could suffer.
"Keeping toxic people around could take away time and energy from positive friends, damage your self-esteem or put you in harm's way," says Jan Yager, Ph.D., sociologist and author of "When Friendship Hurts." Here, she deconstructs a dozen so-called friends you may want to break up with.
As so many great songs remind us "breaking up is hard to do." Instead of searching for the perfect way to end it, the best approach is often to avoid the most common break up pit falls. Here are 4 of the most common mistakes women make when breaking up. Avoid these, and you'll be well on your way to making a difficult situation as smooth as possible.
There's a wrong way and a right way to break up. This guy did it the right way. He was honest.
The not knowing and the waiting for the next phone call are always worse than just hearing the truth: that he started seeing someone else, that he got back together with his ex, that—pardon the cliché—he just wasn't that into you. Do I expect a guy who isn't interested after one drinks-date to tell me that he doesn't see a future together? Of course not—he'd sound so presumptuous. And trust me, I've pulled the disappearing act many a time. But past the get-to-know-you point, don't we deserve to know where things went awry? I say yes. But because it's easier not to address these topics, I've never gotten a straight explanation—at least without prompting—until now.
Truthfully, I hadn't been 100 percent sold on this guy, but I was having fun for the time being and, frankly, there was no reason not to keep seeing him. We liked the same bar band and, as it turns out, had been at the same concert years ago. He suggested one of my favorite restaurants for our second date but was cool with just watching "The Office" on our fourth. (That he felt it appropriate to make out with me in the middle of "The Office" was slightly less promising.)
And when he woke up at my apartment and suggested that, rather than going downstairs, we just order bagels and coffee and catch up on TV, it felt like he had read my mind: That is exactly how I want to spend a slightly hung-over Saturday morning. Basically, we seemed to have a fair amount in common, and he seemed like a good guy. (Plus, he was tall.) I was trying not to dismiss the relationship too quickly, as I'm prone to do, and, instead, listening to my mom's advice, was hoping sparks would develop.
That's when I found he had come to the same conclusion I had—and decided not to drag it out.
Break-up advice: five essential tips about the right way to end a relationship with your boyfriend.
Break-up advice: five essential tips about the right way to end a relationship with your boyfriend. "You know something is wrong between you and him, so do you just pull the trigger, kill this relationship dead and move on? No, take a moment. Look at what you used to have between the two of you and what you've got now. Make a list of where you two have gone off the rails. Seeing your problems in black and white helps you put things in perspective."