Picture this: First date. You sense some amazing chemistry. The conversation never stops; plenty of laughter. At the end of the wonderful evening, he kisses you goodnight—twice. Obviously you're heading into date two territory, right? Not so much.
HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION
The Psychology of Rejection James E. Barrick, Ph.D.© 2010 Being single, or unattached from an ongoing relationship, can be both a bane or a blessing. It really depends on how you look at it. For example, having to depend on yourself can be a positive experience, a negative experience, or both. Being single by choice creates a different world than becoming single by chance.
Are you perfect? Do you know anyone who is? Look at the people you know who are in midlife or older: do you know any people who doesn’t have some rough times behind them or are not currently facing life challenges? It’s doubtful—because you are in real life and not the movies! All grownups have some less-than-flattering “stuff.” I received an email recently from Lisa, a woman who, after describing her life situation, asked: “Is there any hope for me?” Ugh. I can’t tell you how sad this makes me feel.
When we face our fears of dating and rejection, we open ourselves up to unlimited possibilities. Do you find yourself repeating the same mantra about men day in and day out? It leaves your mouth in various forms, but you’ve got only one point: to release yourself from any responsibility and keep you safe and snug-as-a-bug-in-a-rug without the worry of that pesky intimacy thing. "There are no good men out there. I’m better off without a man. I don’t want any man who isn’t willing to accept me exactly as I am. All the men my age are old fuddy-duddies or want the young girls...." Blah, blah, blah.