The fear of rejection is very real and very scary. Nobody likes being rejected and often times we do not understand why. However, the case may be that we set our own selves up for rejection. Read on to learn how so you can change it for the future.
HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION
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I recently received a message on OkCupid from an attractive, educated, interesting guy. All it said was, “Hi. Nice profile.” And he signed his name. I enjoyed reading his profile, but I was very put off by the red dot signifying that he “replies very selectively” to the emails he receives. My first thought was that he must ignore all of the women who email him. And in that case, why would I want to know him? Instead of jumping to conclusions, however, I wrote back. “Back at ya. But what’s up with the red dot?”
One of the most common dating problems women face is wondering why he didn't call. You know, that great guy you had so much fun with and never heard from again? Men mysteriously disappear, and dating rejection can be jarring and feel really crummy.
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Rejection? Ouch!!! There is no point in trying to pretend that any one of us is immune from the sting. Rejection can feel unpleasant, embarrassing, awkward and at times, completely devastating. It may crush our self-esteem or take us down a mental road of self-doubt, criticism and blame. Even for the most outwardly confident and self assured among us, it simply is not fun to feel rejected. In fact a sad truth is that very often the fear of rejection is what stops us from reaching our potential or going for what we really want in life.
Nobody likes to be rejected. It can do a number on your confidence and self-esteem. While everyone involved in online dating will face rejection at one point or another, there are a few things you can do that will reduce your chances of winding up in the discard pile. Check out the tips below to lower your chances of being rejected online:
It’s hard but it happens. And it hurts. You love someone who may have loved you once upon a time; or You love someone who acted like there was a possibility of love in return, but now there’s not; or You love someone who simply doesn’t feel the same way and isn’t going to feel the same way, ever; or
Your partner doesn't have to walk out on you or file for divorce for you to feel rejected. He might close down and refuse to talk when something is obviously bothering him. She may consistently turn down your invitations to have sex or be physically intimate with her. He could confide in a close friend-- maybe even a friend of the opposite sex-- things that he doesn't tell you about. She might refuse your help and advice, even when you have experience or expertise that could really be of benefit to her.