Hot Sex Advice: The Do's & Dont's Of Threesomes!

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[Dr. Emily Morse is a celebrity sexpert and host of Sex with Emily, a weekly top downloaded podcast on iTunes. Emily is the co-founder of Emily & Tony, a sexy intimate care line, and starred in Bravo's Miss Advised. Each month, Emily will provide her best tips for a steamy sex life right here on YourTango.]

If you think a threesome is going to solve all your problems, you've probably watched one too many dirty movies.

A ménage à trois between Scarlett Johansson, Javier Bardem, and Penélope Cruz can make even the most monogamous person want to pursue a threesome. But if you're going to dip your toes into the murky waters of a ménage à trois, you'll need to learn the do's and don'ts first. Then you can decide if a night of hot sex and high school fantasies come true is worth all the trouble.

Don't: Suggest Your Partner's Best Friend For The Threesome
Suggesting that your partner's BFF should participate in the threesome is the same thing as admitting you've been fantasizing about their most trusted friend since day one. Save yourself a lot of trouble and keep those fantasies buried deep inside of you.

Do: An Acquaintance
If you'll be sad to lose a friend, don't invite them into bed with you and your partner. There will be no concerns about emotional involvement with the third if you do it with an acquaintance.

If you're single, having a threesome with two acquaintances is daring and potentially a lot of fun. If the perfect opportunity presents itself, why not?

Don't: Just Go With It
Okay, I know that I just said if the perfect opportunity arises you should go for it, but if you're in a relationship, it's important to communicate about expectations for the threesome. You and your partner may have very different ideas about what you want the threesome to entail.

Do: Set Rules
What do you want to get out of the threesome? What are you comfortable with? What are you absolutely not comfortable with? Maybe you want to have a girl-girl-guy threesome where you only interact with the girl while he watches. Or you want the third to leave soon after the threesome is over. Have a clear idea of how you want things to play out to avoid the threesome turning into a hot mess.

Don't: Have A Threesome To Save Your Relationship
For some, having a threesome can seem like a loophole to cheating. Do you want to experiment sexually with your partner and fulfill a fantasy? Or is having a threesome an excuse to have sex with someone else guilt-free? You may think a threesome will bring back the fire in your relationship, but it's more likely to complicate things if you're already having problems.

Do: Be Aware Of What You're Getting Yourself Into
Go into a threesome with your eyes (and legs) wide open. Is fulfilling a fantasy worth jeopardizing a relationship? Will your expectations for the threesome be able to measure up to reality? Or maybe — just maybe — the threesome will be the greatest, most pleasurable, experience of your entire life.

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